Bullies!!!

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What an inspiring story...

[Nochowderforyou]

My son is one of the sweetest kids EVER, and he had been getting picked on in school. Particularly during basket ball practice. Anyway, we sat down and talked about it the other night, and I told him that he needs to stand up for himself. I don't know if this was the right thing to do, but he took my advice, and got in a fight during practice today, err yesterday. My son said he won the fight, but I told him that winning and losing a fight doesn't really matter. I said what matters is you stood up for yourself, and didn't let some bully push you around. I told him I was proud of him because I know how scary some people seem, and it took a lot of courage to stand his ground. I think I'll take him out pizza and a movie next time he comes to see me.

Oh yeah, the two are friends now, lol! Go figure.. ..

Do you all think I did the right thing by telling him to stand his ground, or could/should I have handled it a different way? It all seemed to work out. I don't want to encourage violence, but bullies are a different breed, man. I think my son handled it the only way he could.


Junk~

Wow, sounds like me when I was younger, only I hid my sadness really well and my mother knew nothing about what was really happening at school. They didn't know what was wrong with me as I was depressed. It was only a few years later that I told them everything that those kids did to me. Daily ass kickings for me. It was horrible, so I stopped going, simple as that.

I know if I would have told my mom, that she would have phoned the school, etc, then I would get an asskicking twice as hard the next day. So I hid it.

My dad on the other had would have told me to kick some ass.

I think you did the right thing. Now he has that bully off his back, and probably won't have that problem ever again. There is only one way to stop a bully, and that is to kick the shit out of them. Seriously. Puinishing them won't work at all, and neither will words, but kicking the crap out of them in front of everyone, is a whole newfound pleasure.

I'm just glad he didn't let it go too far where he ended up snapping, like I did. After a full semester of black eyes and busted lips, I finally lost it on my one of many bullies, and knocked him into oblivion. I don't mean 1 punch, I mean I was on top of him slamming both my fists into his face one after the other. Ahhh, I can still feel the warm blood on my hands and the caving in of his nose.

I got suspended, then expelled for life shortly after.

Bullies can do a lot of damage, and they did to me, but they paid the price for it in the end...but so did I. I quit school and didn't graduate until I was 22.

I'm glad he kicked his ass, and it's nice to see they are friends. I just hope they don't team up for dueling bully action. Nah, I'm just kidding. I'm sure he's a good kid.

[JunkYard]

I had almost forgotten about this thread, lol. He came in this past weekend, and we went out for ice cream, and taco's, but I was surprised he didn't talk about the fight more. It was like no big deal to him for some reason. Anyway, he says all is good and he's glad he did it.


Nochowderforyou, sorry bout your past, man. I was picked on for years until I snapped myself. After that I couldn't get enough. Lots of fights brought on by me after that, lol! I'm trying to keep my son level headed, tho. I never had the guidence I needed when I was his age. He'll do fine, man. I seriously doubt he'll turn into a bully....I hope not anyway!

Napolitnana869, he knows not to fight unless he must. He also knows that he was rewarded for his courage and not for the actual fight. I made that VERY clear, lol! :thumbsup:

Thanks for the support to the rest of you, and 40oz...it's better to lose than to just sit there and do nothing, man. He certainly could have got his ass whipped, but that the chance you gotta take sometimes. He was willing to take it, and I'm glad he did. Otherwise, he'd still be getting picked on. Win or lose, he stood up for himself and that my friend is what matters....

[Nochowderforyou]

Nochowderforyou, sorry bout your past, man. I was picked on for years until I snapped myself. After that I couldn't get enough. Lots of fights brought on by me after that, lol! I'm trying to keep my son level headed, tho. I never had the guidence I needed when I was his age. He'll do fine, man. I seriously doubt he'll turn into a bully....I hope not anyway!

Thanks for the words. Much appreciated. :thumbsup: And yes, after one snaps, their mind really does shift gears for good. That's why I got kicked out of school, because I kept fighting, but shit, you tell the princepal that he says, "oh, just ignore them." Kind of hard to ignore a fist coming at your face you fuckin bastard!

Anyways, keep your son as level headed as possible. Sounds like you're doing a good job.

And not that my parents weren't good folks. I had the best childhood and I couldn't have asked for better. It's just that I hid because I didn't want them to know.

But hey, the past is the past and I think going through that made me stronger for the better. If it never happened, people would still be confusing my kindness for weakness.

Peace and respect.

[Psycho4Bud]

They can either stand up for themselves or be a whipping post. Good advice dude!

Buy your kid a lunchbox!

Have a good one!:jointsmile:

[Bong30]

Good job Little JY..... you daddy done good.


My son is they same way.... so damn sweet.... why do they have to be bullied and lose that innocence...

I used to be the huge guy that told the bullies to stick it in there ass, and if they wanted to pick on someone...ill be there hucleberry.....Bullies suck.


Good parenting JY, we need about 150 million more of you.

[JunkYard]

Thanks guys!

Bong30, I'll hate when my son loses his innocence, man. He's such a sweet kid! I guess it's only a matter of time, and prob for the best tho. Life has a way of changing people; I just hope I'll be able to be someting he'll want to emulate, ya know.. ..A good example.

p4b, nice video lol! I never listened to MM much, but I like the song beautiful people. Good stuff!

Nochowderforyou, mucho respect, man!

[WalkaWalka]

You very much did the right thing. I used to get picked on when I was junior high. The school doesn't do shit. The teachers don't do shit. The only thing a kid can do is fight. The only is. I would tell him to do it where he isn't going to be seen by anyone that would rat on him. Schools get pretty crazy about that anymore. All I did was switch school and learn to throw my weight around.

[cannabis campbell]

How is this to do with sexuality?

[BabyFacedAbortion]

this is the parenting forum.