Quote Originally Posted by Oneironaut
Don't even expect that. Just don't expect anything. When the tang comes to you, it will be that much sweeter.

This is actually the problem that helped me to reach my epiphany. I have this new friend, and she's totally hot, and I totally want to bang her, but I got lost in my sexual desire and forgot how lucky I am to just have her as a friend. Just because sex would be super-awesome doesn't mean friendship isn't awesome too, or that I should feel unsatisfied just being friends with her. If sex ever happens between us, great. If it doesn't, great, I still have a wonderful new friend. Because I don't expect anything out of her, I can really cherish the friendship in a way I could not if I was constantly disappointed that I'm not fucking her.
ouch. That's a tight spot to be in. Sometimes a hookup attempt works with friends. Sometimes it's a dissaster. Sounds like you've got the right attitude though. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be :jointsmile:
benagain Reviewed by benagain on . My epiphany (warning: contains the secret to true happiness) Well, I finally figured out the secret to true happiness. It's actually simpler than I expected it to be. It turns out the Buddha was right. Much of suffering comes from the presence of unfulfilled desires. When we want something and we don't have it or can't get it, we become unhappy. Often our expectations of what kind of pleasure we should be getting are too high, and when we experience something pleasurable but not quite as pleasurable as we expected, we find ourselves disappointed. Rating: 5