some good advice !

[friendowl]

anyone with any good input feel free to add....

my lil bit of parental advice is this ,

if you put your babies or lil kids to sleep early
like at 830 every night , when they get older
they will stick to that pattern and leave you in peace
if you let your kids stay up with you , after some time
you will go crazy cuz you need time by yourself

another thing is dont let them sleep in your bed with you
they will get used to it and never leave
i made the mistake of letting my lil son sleep with me
and know he hates to be alone in his room at night
but my lil girl who has slept alone since day one
wont sllep anywhere but in her bed

friendowl Reviewed by friendowl on 01-17-2007. some good advice ! anyone with any good input feel free to add.... my lil bit of parental advice is this , if you put your babies or lil kids to sleep early like at 830 every night , when they get older they will stick to that pattern and leave you in peace if you let your kids stay up with you , after some time you will go crazy cuz you need time by yourself Rating: 5

[birdgirl73]

That was very good advice, both parts of it. Wish I'd heeded it when my mom told me the same stuff when I was a young mother. I got in the bad habit of letting our son sleep with us when he was a small infant and it was just easier to nurse him and put him between us in the bed instead of taking him back down the hall to his own room. And sure enough, it was hard later to get him to sleep alone in his own bed. And until he was well up into elementary school, he still came and crawled in with us when he had bad dreams or when there were storms or something. Fortunately, that eventually ended. But I also let him stay up too late with me, which was also hard later. Now he's a night owl like me and sometimes has a hard time getting up on time in the mornings. Good advice, Friendowl!

[Samwhore]

same thing with sweets,
if you feed them healthier foods,
theyll most likey prefer them over sweets

[slipknotpsycho]

anyone with any good input feel free to add....

my lil bit of parental advice is this ,

if you put your babies or lil kids to sleep early
like at 830 every night , when they get older
they will stick to that pattern and leave you in peace
if you let your kids stay up with you , after some time
you will go crazy cuz you need time by yourself

another thing is dont let them sleep in your bed with you
they will get used to it and never leave
i made the mistake of letting my lil son sleep with me
and know he hates to be alone in his room at night
but my lil girl who has slept alone since day one
wont sllep anywhere but in her bed

lol.. my grandma let me sleep with her everynight... then i got older.. and i was scared to be in my own room (like to the point where i'd spend five minutes in there and run the fuck out with my adrenaline pumping.. like if i was being chased by some psycho with a big ass knife) got 10x worse if it was dark... i was even scared to be alone in any dark enviroment... didn't get over it til i was like 16-17 it sucked, and no matter how many times i told myself i was gonna get through it and just sit there and not run out, i always ended up doing so...

so yeah, definately don't let your kids sleep in your bed with you...

oh yeah, our son stays up til like 11-12... but he gets up between 7-9 religously..

[Fengzi]

Good advice friendowl. It comes down to consistancy. Young children need it. You can't expect them to go to bed at 8:30 one day just because you want them to if you let them stay up to 10:00 every other night.

The only parenting advice I can think of off the top of my head is along the same line. "No" should always mean no. Don't tell them "no" and then give in after some whining or crying. It will just teach them that whining or crying will get them what they want. Once you say "no" never give in. After a while they'll come to realize that whining and crying isn't going to help and they won't do it anymore. If it's something that is up for debate tell them "maybe" instead and then go from there. The trick is that, as the parent, you need to make the quick decision between whether something is "no" or "maybe".

[Its a Plant]

No does mean "no," but I remember one time I got in trouble and was sent to bed with...no dessert, and boy was I ticked.

Then like an hour later my dad sneaks in my room and gives me a bowl of ice cream...stuff like that is nice...once in a while...

[MastaChronic]

heres my good advice

dont be fool, wrap your tool

[stinkyattic]

same thing with sweets,
if you feed them healthier foods,
theyll most likey prefer them over sweets

Yes that is absolutely true... my mom did NOT let me drink soda or eat sweets, including 'kid style' breakfast cereal.
Even on my birthday she got in the habit of making carrot cake... my FAVORITE!!!!
I have never had a single cavity in my life and still prefer to snack on olives and cheese... the only sweet thing I can't live without is CHOCOLATE !!!

[geonagual]

This is kind of interesting and didn't notice the new parenting forum. That is good advice, owl. I have a 14 and 11 yo girls and they dont stay up late. Always had a set bedtime of 9 p.m. My 11 yo now goes to bed around 8:30 pm and has her alarm set for 5:30 am every school day (it is her preference). I have given more leeway to my 14 yo. She can go to bed when she is tired now.

Never hit your kids.
For discipline, my girls have always did exercises, timeouts and corner time.

[Fengzi]

heres my good advice

dont be fool, wrap your tool

If only someone had told your father this.

Never hit your kids.
For discipline, my girls have always did exercises, timeouts and corner time.

I agree, never hit your kids. We do the timeout/corner time thing too. Or, we take something away. "Do what I've told you or I will take your (fill in the blank) away and you won't have it anymore" This usually works best for us when the thing we'd take is directly related to her misbehaving. For example, we want her to come to the table for dinner but she's playing with a specific toy instead.

I'm curious about the exercises though. What type of exercises are you talking about. I've got this picture of a hard ass Marine drill seargeant yelling "you little maggot, drop and give me 20" to a 3 yo. But if it works, hell, fill me in.