some good advice !

[birdgirl73]

Yeah, we were learning about the healthy eating/psychology of children with food factor in medical psychopathology back in the fall. It was really interesting. Apparently kids learn that food is "magical" when it's withheld or monitored too closely. So parents who make a big show of withholding so-called unhealthy foods and sugary things teach the kids quickly that those foods are more powerful than they really are. And consequently, those foods become the more desirable ones to kids. This is how compulsive overeaters are made, too. Parents over-limit foods and portions, which teaches the kid that foods are "magical" and need to be hoarded or overeaten since they might be limited in the future. The result is not good later in life. If toddlers and little ones are left to their own devices, they generally eat what they want in the amounts they need. But if parents do a lot of limiting and pushing of certain foods over others, kids, who are very smart, intuitive beings, quickly learn which foods and amounts are magical and which ones aren't. This happens before the age of 3, generally, and is a pattern that's entrenched very early. Yet it affects them for the rest of their lives.

[liberiamom]

hey slip
when i was a lil ass kid
there was no where for me to sleep but in my grandmas room
one night when she was snoring all loud keeping me awake
i started playing "g.i. joe" on her body [she was the mountain]
i had all kinds of soldiers posted up on and around her
i was flying the plane whn i accidentally dropped it on her face
the mountain erupted and gi joes went flying everywhere

LOL!!!! I can picture that

[geonagual]

"They are getting to old", or you are ? Just kidding, how old were they when you started this? I really like the idea because it sounds like its a punishment that will do some good other than just correcting the behavior. My only concern would be that they'd develop some deep seated aversion to exercise and wind up some out of shape couch potato later in life. Any indication of this or has it been just the opposite?

First, my main discipline was time outs and I think I perfected. It was my style but it was the funnest. I would make them sit on the couch/chair, whatever, put their hands on their knees, put their head down and absolutely no talking. It was very effective and I would just have to say the word "time out" and they would assume the position.

Sometimes I would do the corner and that was effective too. Usually when they were crying. I would make them stand there till I knew their legs were hurting. Couldn't touch the walls and head down.

Exercize. I can't actually say that it was a discipline. It is hard for me to explain. I didn't do it all the time. Just on certain occasions when I thought it would be appropriate. Mostly minor infractions and there would always be a set # and they couldn't be done till they were done.

I don't think it has made them lazy. My youngest loves to exercize. Hikes with me, gymnastics and still can do about 50 perfect push-ups in a row. She is called the "push-up" queen. It mostly was a game with her.

My oldest did hate it and was always lackluster doing her exercises. I didn't push too hard, but it was the act that she hated. I mostly stood her in the corner and gave her timeouts.

As for now, they are good girls.

I am still working on punishments for now. They definitely don't deserve a spanking. I don't wanna stand them in the corner anymore. They are too old for that, same with the timeouts. Mostly now is a strict talking too if need be. Take away computer/phone priveleges. Thats about it.

[Ibu Jari]

anyone with any good input feel free to add....

my lil bit of parental advice is this ,

if you put your babies or lil kids to sleep early
like at 830 every night , when they get older
they will stick to that pattern and leave you in peace
if you let your kids stay up with you , after some time
you will go crazy cuz you need time by yourself

another thing is dont let them sleep in your bed with you
they will get used to it and never leave
i made the mistake of letting my lil son sleep with me
and know he hates to be alone in his room at night
but my lil girl who has slept alone since day one
wont sllep anywhere but in her bed

Establishing a bedtime is wonderful and all, but there are some pretty huge benifits to sleeping with your children, especially in the first year. That doesn't mean it's for everyone, but it's false the they'll never leave.

[Amun]

anyone with any good input feel free to add....

my lil bit of parental advice is this ,

if you put your babies or lil kids to sleep early
like at 830 every night , when they get older
they will stick to that pattern and leave you in peace
if you let your kids stay up with you , after some time
you will go crazy cuz you need time by yourself

another thing is dont let them sleep in your bed with you
they will get used to it and never leave
i made the mistake of letting my lil son sleep with me
and know he hates to be alone in his room at night
but my lil girl who has slept alone since day one
wont sllep anywhere but in her bed

eh.


i dono about all that now.


i slept in my parents bed and I never really remember sleeping in it after the age of like 6, i believe.

never really wanted to....but i mean of course i was scared to sleep alone.