Appropriate, or not?

[Purple Banana]

Good thought, and kind, but remember- being there for him first, having a human being to talk with him is irreplacable versus smoking a joint, even if it could help ease the pain.

It's best not to distract ones self during such an emotional time, as feelings of this sort need to be felt raw so we can deal with them in a healthy, albeit painful way. But it helps in the long run to be able to sort it out.

Give it like 2 weeks, or so. Remember, weed should never be an escape from problems, rather, used as a healing aid to bring happiness and fun.

Good luck with everything.

[rainbows.rsexy]

give thanx and praise to the lord, and U will feeeeeeeel alriggggghhhhhht

[hewhispers]

If I can add....
You may not know just how to react to his situation...it is so very foreign to most of us ....which is why you wanted to do something...the gift was a nice gesture for sure...but I can tell you from personal experience that the best thing to do is to BE there.

When it happened in my life I found that people avoided us, not knowing what to do. And what I wanted people to know was that I just wanted them to be around us so I wasn't alone, so I had someone to talk with, so I had a reason to be distracted.

Trust me...he wants your company more than anything.
Take him out. Invite him out. It does not have to be anything big..it can be small. It just gives him the opportunity to talk, which he might not have now.

Good luck.

[Storm Crow]

To put it bluntly, about 25 years ago, my Mother committed suicide after many years of severe alcohol abuse. She shot herself. I was a few hundred miles away and dead broke. I fell apart, even though she had attempted suicide several times before and her death was not unexpected. A half hour after I got the phone call, my friendly neighborhood dealer came over unexpectedly to see if she could sell me a bag of Columbian. She took one look at me and gave me the bag, saying "Pay me when you can." and left a minute later. (A speed freak, but basically a good person.)

For me, getting that baggie was a life-saver. It allowed me to function (I had 2 small children at the time) and gave me a "breather" from the pain. Ask your friend how he's doing and if he thinks lighting one up would help his pain. - Granny

[MastaChronic]

when my dad killed himself i smoked some of his stash (it was my first time) and it didnt do jack for me....for a little bit, then it hit me like a bag of turtles and it made me feel better.

[qdavid]

Your heart's in the right place. You rock. But the best thing you can do for him, and I know from personal experience, is to listen, just be there, don't judge, don't even reply much, just listen to him. He needs to talk. Don't push. Just be there. And listen. He'll really appreciate just that simple act. Not exactly console. Just let him talk.

[rg420]

I didnt read through everyones posts in the thread so someone might have said this.

If it was me I would call him up, and just invite him to a one on one session ya know. Just so he knows that you care. I mean just have it be you and him, just talking, he probably wants someone to talk to so that be a good thing for you to do. but whatever you do, dont force it on him to smoke. He may actually not want it right now.