Anybody else here in chronic pain?

[mrdevious]

Your first thought is probably "why didn't he post this in the medical forum?". Well, because I'm not looking for solutions, support, or even a discussion over the condition. I just wanted to ask those who like myself, live in chronic pain, are your friends total assholes too?

Maybe that's a bit harsh, I mean they're still my friends and probably always will be, but I feel like calling them assholes. More and more I can just tell, they're getting sick of me and my pain issues. I can constantly feel this tension in the air, this "oh, there goes mike again with his whining, acting like it's 10 times worse than it really is."
I RARELY actually complain about it, and every time I'm over at their place I'm putting a 110% effort the whole time to contain any reactions and pretend I'm doing just fine, like smiling and laughing and all that while TRYING (damn hard) to ignore the massive pain going through all my muscles and bones.
But sometimes, like last night, it just gets to be way too much and I can't deal with it. Yesterday when I was over there I was sitting with the guys, chatting and all that, and the pain got excrutiating (regardless of being pumped full of enough painkillers to kill Robert Downy Jr., which barely do anything anyways). So I quietly went upstairs, without a word, and curled up on the couch barely holding myself together. Then 5 minutes later they started moving out all the furniture, which we planned to do earlier. So they carry these big heavy couches upstairs and see me lying there on the couch, not offering to help, and one says in a pissy tone "gee, thanks for helping Mike", and I heard my other friend say "ah that's just Mike being useless with his back again, always whining about it" (trying to say it quietly, but I heard).

It pisses me off enough that because 5 years ago it started with a back and neck injury, they think that's all it is, a bad back and a stiff neck. It's gone WAY beyond that and even my doctors are baffled as to why i'm only getting worse instead of better. I have constant pain in every muscle in my body, sciatica burning in both legs (that seems to now go to the front for some reason), and needles going down arms... not to mention the constant throbbing pain through my whole body. But do these assholes care? No, they just get sick of my supposed whining and keep giving me this bullshit of "quit killing your liver, you don't need painkillers, it's all in your head". Fucking hell I wish I could make them both feel like I do at my worst, then see what a mental tole it takes after several years. With all my experience I could probably take pain levels with a shrug that would make them cry like babies.

But yeah, in case anybody forgot through my long angry ranting, I'm just wondering if your friends (assuming your in pain too) are a bunch of idiot assholes too about it.

mrdevious Reviewed by mrdevious on 01-11-2007. Anybody else here in chronic pain? Your first thought is probably "why didn't he post this in the medical forum?". Well, because I'm not looking for solutions, support, or even a discussion over the condition. I just wanted to ask those who like myself, live in chronic pain, are your friends total assholes too? Maybe that's a bit harsh, I mean they're still my friends and probably always will be, but I feel like calling them assholes. More and more I can just tell, they're getting sick of me and my pain issues. I can Rating: 5

[bavet]

I live with lots of pain, My joints are bad, especialy my elbows and shoulders. I also use a wheel chair since I was 17, 30 now. It's easy for others to not grasp what we go through.

[benagain]

Fortuntately the only pain I get is from immeadiate injuries and aren't long lasting. I feel for the ones who do have chronic pain. Best of health to ya all.

[LIP]

My back. Long story, cant be bothed to explain. Basically i broke it, and then fucked it up again. My mates were wankers... pushing me mucking around, but once i sat down and got comfortable i threw a deoderant can at his head.

But that pissed me off. I couldnt sit down, lay down stand up crouch, fart, piss, shit or anything... i couldnt even fucking put my throusers on and then i fell over and hit my head on a fucking toilet [was getting changed in the bathroom] and nearly knocked myself out on the seat... and then they run upstairs to see what i've banged... so im laying there with a lump on my head and my trousers half on and half of looking dazed... you can iamgine what those cunts said rofl... its funny now, but at the time [summer last year] it was fucking annoying really got me pissed off.

[xcrispi]

I live with lots of pain, My joints are bad, especialy my elbows and shoulders. I also use a wheel chair since I was 17, 30 now. It's easy for others to not grasp what we go through.

Same boat Bavet ,
been in the 'ole w/c for 6 1/2 yrs. now .
until someones lived a day in our shoes it's kinda hard for others to understand .
peace
your cuz
crispi

[JR77]

I have chronic headaches...have had them for at least 10 years....all tests are normal but I know something's causing them. I sometimes think I am allergic to life, but who the hell knows! It sucks, though...sometimes they are REALLY bad!

[BlueCat]

I think if we let ourselves get really mad at those that really don't understand we will just find ourselves angry ALL THE TIME.

The truth is THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND. Can you really be mad at someone that can't relate to how you feel?
Don't let the anger eat at you.

Thinking someone who has not broken their back or experiended this type of serious injury will understand what you are going through is a waste of energy. If you have never lived it... even your most understanding well meaning friend will never really understand.

We have to be the understanding ones. I understand that my family will never know what it feels like to have so many broken bones so I accept that. I laugh along with them and I accept it. I except that some days will be harder than others.

It is the only way you will be happy again Mr.devious and Lip.
You actually are doing what is best when you comment here looking for others that can understand exactly what you are going through.

I think that we feel quilty a lot of the time. I bet you felt bad because you really wanted to help move the furniture with your friends so maybe your guilt compounded your anger a little and you may have taken the remarks you overheard a little more to heart than you would normally.

Just don't let their comments get to you. They don't understand so it is not really their fault.

laughing things off is good and it is ok when an innocent remark really gets to you.... somedays are harder than others just know that things will get better and don't let it play in your head too long.

I am glad you are here Mr.D and you too Lip...I know exactly how you feel. Back injuries can make your entire body hurt. Just know its OK to have bad days....and savor the good ones

On bad days I like to find really funny videos and laugh my ass off.....

This is a great place to hang out when you need to cheer up

[BlueCat]

I have chronic headaches...have had them for at least 10 years....all tests are normal but I know something's causing them. I sometimes think I am allergic to life, but who the hell knows! It sucks, though...sometimes they are REALLY bad!

I sometimes think I am allergic to life,

I love that statement! I bet everyone can relate to that.

[BlueCat]

Same boat Bavet ,
been in the 'ole w/c for 6 1/2 yrs. now .
until someones lived a day in our shoes it's kinda hard for others to understand .
peace
your cuz
crispi

Oh geez you said the same thing it took me an entire page to say

*big hug*

[Bong30]

MR, D
I can relate, its about the quality of life, and it sucks when you are in pain all the time....

hang in there, and I hope you get better.

Im, not going to get into it, but i had some shit wrong with me I wouldnt wish on my worst enemy......

I was in BAD pain from 97-05.

Your real freinds will hang with you and understand... the others??? fuck em.


Get a second and third fourth opinion?

are you on pain Killers?

I am the biggest ( yes even bigger) asshole when Im on those.