Is It Worth It?

[Its a Plant]

i dunno wether you made the "little boy" comment wether to get a reaction out of me . . .

Didn't I though

And I'm glad you've stated your opinion, now be prepared to defend it to the death!

. . kidding . .

P.S. - - I love children.

P.P.S. - - that "love" is purely platonic, just to clarify. =)

[b0Ng h!tz 4 mE]

P.S. - - I love children.

P.P.S. - - that "love" is purely platonic, just to clarify. =)

you had me worried for a second

[liberiamom]

People who want children should have them, either through birth or adoption. I can't wait to have my kids! But many people aren't ready to have children, but do, and of course the children suffer greatly. I think that most people should wait until they are a bit older (30ish) so that they have the experience of living for themselves first and figuring out who they really are before adding a child who must be cared for night and day. Because there is no safe, foolproof birth control (human error must always be factored into the equation) young people who haven't had this yet feel saddled with too much responsibilty and resent the loss the child represents. Not a recipe for happiness! There was a time when having children very young made sense- because people died in their thirties, and many women younger did as well in childbirth. But in contemporary society, I believe it is best in most cases to wait. So if a young person says they don't want kids, I personally am relieved! If I had a child when I was in my teens or twenties, I would have been a terrible parent. Many years later, I now think I will be a good one. Times change and so do we.

[Nation_1ne]

yes it is,im a single dad of 4, 16 14 13 10 and its the most rewarding thing you can do,i fucking love bringing my kids up on my own

I'm assuming you're a good Dad and nice to your kids, if so you're a fucking ace guy. Well done.

[invision]

im 27yrs old and currently have two boys 8 and 1 and another on the way, i wont lie i wanted to jump out the window some days but teaching them how to learn things its a wonderful experience.

its tough, im broke, but im happy

[Inferius]

I'd like to thank you all for your input,
and hope that any parents joining this forum vote and share their input on this thread.
Thanks guys

[Fengzi]

to have a child is to give up your own live just to have em use all your money time and effort
..

Yep, you are 100% correct...well....maybe 95% correct. They don't use up all the money . But yeah, you do give up your old life. But the new life you start, that of a parent, is infinitely more rewarding. Which brings me to my next point:

just because iv never HAD a kid dosnt mean i dont know shit about it..

Yes it does, you don't know shit about it. Neither did I before I became a parent, neither did slipknot, neither did xxxhazexxx, neither did..... You may have seen what other parents do, you may have seen or played with, or suffered because of, other people's kids. But, you do not know what it means to be a parent until you've actually become one.

The relationship between a parent and a child, the bond between you, the feelings you have for a child, are so different from anything else you could ever experience that you really can't know until you've had a child of your own. It really hit me a year or so ago when my daugher had the stomach flu. I'm holding her in my arms as she's crying and throwing up all over me. The thing was, I didn't even think about the fact that I was getting covered in her vomit. The only thing that mattered was that my little girl didn't feel good. It's things like that that you just can't truly know about until it's your own child.

I will give you credit where credit is due. You sound like you are smart enough to know you are not ready for a child. That's not a bad thing. Heck, I wasn't ready until I was 33. I've seen too many people who have kids long before they're ready. These are the assholes, you mentioned earlier, that run out on their kids because they can't handle the stress.


As for me, there's about 5hrs and 20 minutes more hours before I get home and see my little girl again. Yes, I'm counting the minutes.................

[Ibu Jari]

I haven't reached "the end" as I'm not dead. However, these last 5 (almosst 5.5) years have been well worth it. I love my children.