Birdgirl, I think I am going to go out on a limb here and respectfully disagree with you. Marzvoolta's girlfriend has expressed an interest in sex, and has apparently even mentioned that she has been willing to experiment. If she is sincere in these comments, their sex life has a lot of hope. Communication is everything, and if she is willing to talk about sex with him, and share her feelings about it, I don't think their sex life is doomed. I also acknowledge how severe her upbringing was, and how that can affect a relationship, but I think in this case she has also acknowledged this, and is willing to work past it. Maybe I am just too hopeful in this situation, IDK, but it is better than getting out of a relationship when it has a chance of recovering after all.