I agree with B.Basher.

If you cant get her to play the way you like and it is important to you, you have to move on. Or you will be wasting time and resenting or cheating and why go there?

Talk to her. Ask her to try some of the stuff that you like.
See if she will do it for you.

If not, you need to go or give up the kinky shit.
Its hard giving up the kinky shit.