Personally, I think all parents want the very best for your children, so if they are going to smoke, I think it should be with their parents. I'm 43, and I have two daughters, 20 and 19. I taught them "how" to drink and not get drunk last year and just this last week got them high for the first time, (or they got me high because I don't have any). Of course, I haven't got high for 6 or 7 years actually, but when they told me they wanted to smoke, I want to be there to make sure they are okay and having a good experience. So last night, we had a girls night, dads and boyfriends gone. I showed them how to get all their food arranged ahead of time so there's no binging (hey that's important for women!) picked out a huge selection of cool music for them to listen to, including muppet songs, cleaned the whole dining room,got fresh flowers and incense, candles, brought out the scrabble games, and did a huge whiteboard with the stages of highness, and a time gauged at about 2.5 hours so they could feel safe knowing whatever they felt would be gone after a certain amount of time. It was a really great experience. They didn't fight with each other, (they argue all the time normally), were really funny, and although a part of me knows society would be totally against this, I mean, they are great kids, make good grades in college, and if you are going to drink and smoke, then someone needs to teach you how to handle it. You know? Like always using your seatbelt when you drive. If you always use it, there is never a question. I have rules, if you are going to use mindaltering substances no matter what, you tell someone you trust what you are doing, you don't drive, and you don't go out in nightclubs or parties without a buddy. If you are alone, practice safe behavior.