I agree, it isn't good to lie, but I don't think I will need to lie. When I do talk to the kids about marijuana, as I intend to, I will tell them my true feelings about it - that it is an herb that helps people's pain, and that for a variety of bad reasons, it is illegal in this country, etc.
But keeping my own use a secret until they are old enough to understand seems the best way for me - it isn't as if I would deny anything- if I was ever asked, I would sit them down and explain (just like when they ask me about sex!) but until that point, they needn't know every medicine I use, anymore than they need to know what daddy and I do under the covers....
I feel the same as you same as you about alcohol; if there is a choice, I would much prefer kids smoke pot at home and munch out and watch a movie or whatever, than to drink and drive around drunk- And if pot wasn't illegal, I would have no problem with the kids smoking once they were 18.

It's just that our kids are going to be adopted orphans from a war-torn country, whose limited command of the English language and post-tramatic stress and various other physical and emotional concerns are going to be more important to me initially. It isn't the average family scenario, that's for sure.

Since I stopped drinking in 1984, I have been an inveterate truth-teller, but I will postpone broaching the subject with the kids until they are ready to deal with it. That is what seems the most sensible right now...
liberiamom Reviewed by liberiamom on . To all you parents out there...Some questions I am not a parent or a kid. I am 40 years old and will never have kids. But I was curious.. When and what are you going to tell your kids about Marijuana? Are you going to be honest and open about it? Are you going to say "Do as I say not as I do"? If you are open about it what are you going to tell them about the dangers of talking about it to others. Rating: 5