How thrilling to be thinking of adopting two girls! I think that's a great idea to bring home older ones. You're exactly right that the younger ones will be the ones most people think of adopting. That's nice that you're giving consideration to the ones who're less likely to find homes. I'm sure you've said this before, but I think I missed it. Are y'all adopting the girls from China? We have some friends who did that and their girls are just darling. They got one, a toddler, about five years ago and then went back two years later and adopted another. Sweet, smart girls. This friend and her husband have them enrolled in a sort of Chinese enrichment school on Saturday mornings so they can stay in touch with their native culture and learn its language. They're also planning trips back to China as a family. I think that's so nice.

Yeah, the IVF process has already been an adventure for my sister. They told her she'd have a much higher chance of getting pregnant successfully with a donor egg, and so she's going to do that instead of working with her own. She's almost 44 (I'm 45). They had a donor all picked out and were ready to start, but in the initial medical testing the donor tested positive for several illicit substances and so was kicked out of the program. So they're starting over with a new one. I hope it works for them. It's so expensive. They're going to try adoption if the IVF attempts fail. They're paying for some "package" where they can get up to four attempts. If that doesn't work, they'll adopt, she says.

We tried and tried to have more than one baby but I miscarried five times after ours was born. He was enormous (10 lbs 7 oz) and I had to have an emergency c-section with him. They theorized that the scarring from that surgery probably kept further pregnancies from proceeding successfully. Our son is 20 and halfway through his third year of college at Duke. Fortunately, he's a sensible and good kid. The most challenging times for me were when we was 2 and 3 and was into everything. And the mouthy phase from 14 to 16. He's pretty mature, which is faily common for an only child, and was usually easy to reason with. Right now, my worries center on the fact that college kids at that age do so much drinking and so much random hooking up. I live in fear that he'll get one of his young lady friends pregnant or that he or one of his friends will do something insane in a car after too much partying. I worked as a paramedic in a university town when I was younger, and I've seen what results when college kids combine partying and automobiles.

Nice talking with you!
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