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[Ibu Jari]

Great forum idea! I run a parenting site myself.

I'm a 24 yr old stay a home mom of two, ages 5 and 1.

[liberiamom]

Thanks to all for sharing your wisdom on this forum!

It is inspiring to hear from parents who feel such deep love for their children, and who are determined to help their children grow in character- it gives me a lot of hope for the next generation, and boy will they need it! We're all going to have to become stronger, I believe, so I am glad to have a group to share my questions and discoveries with.

I have worries about the racism my kids might face - we will be a bi-racial familty, so there may come a time when someone says something really ignorant- any advice? My idea is to just tell the children that some people are ignorant, but that nice people know that everybody is the same no matter what color they are, and we should just be with nice people. I know that sounds simplistic, but my girls won't speak English very well at first, so I'll need to keep it clear. Maybe I'm worried over nothing. I don't think we will have any trouble where we live, it's nice and diverse, but it's good to think about this sort of thing in advance, so that I don't get mad and yell in front of the kids.

[Ibu Jari]

My only advice re: racism is to teach them to cherish their heritage, and should they ever face racism, whether it be someone ignorant about the words they are using, or a true racist, teach them how to educate those who are ignornant, and either stand up for themselves, educate, or ignore the racists.

And of course, by standing up for themselves I don't mean fighting, but with the wisdom and knowledge that stamps out racism.

[liberiamom]

My only advice re: racism is to teach them to cherish their heritage, and should they ever face racism, whether it be someone ignorant about the words they are using, or a true racist, teach them how to educate those who are ignornant, and either stand up for themselves, educate, or ignore the racists.

And of course, by standing up for themselves I don't mean fighting, but with the wisdom and knowledge that stamps out racism.

Beautifully said- Thank you!

[likemclever]

GREAT fourm :thumbsup:

[slipknotpsycho]

Thanks to all for sharing your wisdom on this forum!

It is inspiring to hear from parents who feel such deep love for their children, and who are determined to help their children grow in character- it gives me a lot of hope for the next generation, and boy will they need it! We're all going to have to become stronger, I believe, so I am glad to have a group to share my questions and discoveries with.

I have worries about the racism my kids might face - we will be a bi-racial familty, so there may come a time when someone says something really ignorant- any advice? My idea is to just tell the children that some people are ignorant, but that nice people know that everybody is the same no matter what color they are, and we should just be with nice people. I know that sounds simplistic, but my girls won't speak English very well at first, so I'll need to keep it clear. Maybe I'm worried over nothing. I don't think we will have any trouble where we live, it's nice and diverse, but it's good to think about this sort of thing in advance, so that I don't get mad and yell in front of the kids.

no we won't have to become any stronger then we have in the past... we just need to teach everyone to fight for what they believe in and listen to their own minds and hearts, rather then what other people tell them to believe... i mean the past few decades, it's very evident there are some free thinkers, but no where near as many as their should be.. the rest are obviously listening to what 'people in power' are telling them to listen to.. some, i will give credit to, actually believe what they're hearing... but most.. i think it's more out of fear.. and a society that is run by fear... is no society at all.. it's another dictatorship

[liberiamom]

no we won't have to become any stronger then we have in the past... we just need to teach everyone to fight for what they believe in and listen to their own minds and hearts, rather then what other people tell them to believe... i mean the past few decades, it's very evident there are some free thinkers, but no where near as many as their should be.. the rest are obviously listening to what 'people in power' are telling them to listen to.. some, i will give credit to, actually believe what they're hearing... but most.. i think it's more out of fear.. and a society that is run by fear... is no society at all.. it's another dictatorship

You make an excellent point. I think too many people are too easily swayed by logical fallacies. Sometimes students would rather I just tell them what something "means" rather than go to the effort to figure it out! So maybe laziness is part of it too.