My little sister is a mid-20's virgin. It's not because she can't get any, but rather, she's WAY too damn picky. She's keeping her heart open for a guy who's so perfect that he doesn't exist. One of her requirements is that he also be a virgin.

I've been married now for almost two years. My husband is an amazing man who I've known since junior high school. We were both social outcasts, and somehow through that and so many other things, it helped us to mesh well together. We were pretty hard partiers back in the day, so we were both very sexually experienced from the wrong people. Looking back, we both wish in a way that we had kept the strength to wait for one another, and not share ourselves with anyone else.

Being a virgin at 21 sucks, but let me tell you... sex is not the be all/end all experience in life. Once you've done it for the first time, you can never do it for the first time again. Don't waste it on prostitutes or loose women - you'll not respect yourself for it, I guarantee. There is such a huge difference between fucking and making love. One is worth the time and effort, the other really isn't by comparisson. When that special someone comes around, she's going to want to know where you've been. If you're honest with her, and have to tell her that you gave your virginity away to a paid whore, then you'll definitely lose her respect, as well.

What first attracted me to my husband was his confidence in himself. He always seemed so calm and collected around people, and I admired that quality in him. Little did I know that it was just an effective act, and that he was just as terrified of social situations as I am most of the time. Confidence is what makes girls (unfortunately) also go after assholes. They're especially good at it. What you need is confidence.

How do you get confidence? Here are a few simple steps to help you out. Step number one (and this is important), get yourself a gym membership. Don't go to the gym as a lame excuse to meet women, but to get your body in the best possible shape as you can get it. Go a bare minimum of twice a week, work out until it hurts, and stick with it no matter what. Not only will you feel better, but you will look better. Your skin will look better, and it also helps you feel better emotionally. It's a similar reason why women wear makeup - looking better makes them feel better, too, and helps them get confidence. It will be a change in the routine, and it will be hard, but it will be worth it.

Step number two: pick up girls by talking to them at parties and get togethers, not bars. Do nice things for them, like getting refills on drinks when they need them, and make sure you smile a LOT. If you smile a lot (and not look like some depressed kid in the corner), you will attract more women. Women are going to avoid someone who looks like they're carrying around an ass ton of emotional baggage. They want someone who will make them feel good to be around, so act like everything's going swimmingly, even if you feel like you're going to explode inside.

Step number three: Keep doing steps 1 and 2. Don't stop or give up. Good things will come your way.

Hope this helps.