Quote Originally Posted by Oneironaut
Well, I'm 21 and I'm like the only virgin I know. I have no idea what's wrong with me. Maybe I'm just not attractive, maybe I'm too weird, maybe I'm just not trying the right way, but something's up. I have never had a girlfriend and I've kissed two girls in my entire 21 years of existence (one of them doesn't count cause she only kissed me once real quick to make another kid jealous).

I have no clue what to do. Every day it gets worse, since every day my peers are getting older and more sexually experienced while I lag behind, becoming ever less desirable than the competition. The thing is, I just don't know where to meet girls or how to talk to them if I like them. People tell me that the right girl will just "come along" eventually, but that strategy doesn't seem to be working when I spend most of my free time in my room alone with no place to go. And they tell me to just "be myself" around girls, but that's what I've been doing anyways and it's pretty obvious that being myself for 21 years has gotten me absolutely nowhere. Every time I try to talk to someone about it, I get those two pieces of bad advice, and every time I follow it, continuing to wait around and be myself, and continuing to become crazier and crazier because of my sexual frustration.

I'm a smart, nice, funny guy. I never argue or fight with people, and I'm super-nice to just about everybody I meet. And still, I can't even manage to make any regular friends, much less get a girl to want to fool around with me. I just don't know what I'm doing wrong. What's even more confusing, is that the sexually active guys around me are all total assholes to women all the time! They insult, offend, and abuse women, and they get laid all the time. What do girls see in such pricks? Why do the nice guys finish last?

Sometimes I try to ignore it all, and sometimes I succeed for a while, but it always comes back to haunt me. It's really depressing, and I think it's causing me psychological problems. I often have thoughts of committing suicide, and though I know I would be too scared to actually do it, the very fact that these thoughts keep coming up in my head frightens me. It tells me there's something seriously wrong with my life here and I need to fix it.
Nice guys don't finish last, the ones who are pricks do. You maybe 21 and still a virgin but there's not a damn thing wrong with that. Hell my roommate didn't have sex until he was 26. Don't worry about getting any and just be yourself. One day you'll find the right girl and it will be awesome. You kind of remind me of myself. Always nice and not having many close friends but hey i'd rather have a couple awesome friends then a bunch of flakes.

Sometimes being to nice makes people wonder what you are up to. Over time you will figure out who and when to be super nice to. After a while of being there for them and letting them get to know you they will see the real you. Girls like a guy who can talk and more importantly listen someone who will be there at 2am because they are sad. nice guys are hard to come by so don't you change bud or I'll be pissed.

Most of the guys that go out and get laid just play game, say what they need to so they can get into someone's pants. Personally i tell people I don't want in your pants mine fit just fine.

You can try dating web sites, or chat rooms to meet people. But it's all in how you see yourself and project yourself. If you feel down and out people pick up on that. Walk proudly but not cocky, hold your head up high but not so far that people think your stuck up. Humans are silly and hard to figure out from time to time. Just stay who you are and don't change being nice. Your time will come and when it does i hope she's a great lady who will treat you right.

PS read what birdgirl wrote, she's a smart cookie. She made a lot of good points.