I need help...

[Way2many]

oh my god man this is perfect look here everything you just said right here to us spill that too a chick that you kind of know and that will get you laid for sure..i know i was a virgin until 16 and the girl i lost it to was "a virgin killer" which means she only fucked virgins cause she liked taking virginty from peeps.

[AlwaysBlazed]

I feel you, im in a dry spell now im going on 3 months now (not counting making out or anything). I'm 16 and although I don't seem like the kid, I am waiting for the right girl to lose my virginity to... man when I think about the opportunities I passed up :jointsmile:

I'd also like to add though.. that I have pretty much taken a break from trying to get girls.

Some advice? Honestly, from what I've seen girls are attracted to fucking badasses, so go kick someones ass and then take his girlfriend.

[Skink]

Well, I've actually thought about the whole prostitute thing, and I'd really like to do it, if I could get to Amsterdam. But I'm way too poor for that. I don't have a couple hundred dollars to blow on a plane ticket to Holland.

Well, I don't really have any "friends". Never have. My social life for the past 21 years has been one gigantic failure story.

But there is one girl from work that I've just started hanging out with. I've been thinking about having a talk with her about it, and I guess I could try that out. It'll be a while though, since I have to wait until we have some time in private to talk.

True, I have been called smart by just about everybody I've met, but I can't fathom why that would make me any less desirable to women. Usually they're actually somewhat impressed by my intelligence, and say nice things about it.

It would be ideal, but I don't have any room to pick and choose what kind of women I'd like to meet. My problem is that I'm hardly meeting any at all.

I suppose that might help, but still I run into a lot of problems even when I meet smart girls. I just never know what to say, or how to deal with them on an emotional level (I really really don't have any experience relating to people on a deeper level than casual acquaintanceship). And of course, there's the persistent problem that every girl I ever meet is already screwing somebody.


It is. I've been hearing it for almost ten years, and I've been as patient as I can be. But I don't know how much longer I can last. The depression is really eating away at me, and it's starting to affect the rest of my life. I'll start tearing up at random inappropriate moments (like at work), and I can't help but to feel intense envy and resentment every time I see a happy couple. Sigh...

I'm sure it would be, but again I can't be picky right now. Any relationship at all would be a welcome respite from my solitude.

I know. They keep ruining things for me. Do you know how many times a week I hear from some girl that men are all just horny assholes who can't treat them with respect? But they stay with their assholes anyways, and it kills me to know that I would never treat them like that.

I can't help it. I know on a purely rational level that there's nothing wrong with being a virgin, but my irrational body is screaming for me to do something about this, and it's kind of hard to ignore it. Damn genes...

Probably.

Thanks, I'll need it.

I see your Problem,,,Your anal,,,like me...

[Oneironaut]

I feel you, im in a dry spell now im going on 3 months now (not counting making out or anything). I'm 16 and although I don't seem like the kid, I am waiting for the right girl to lose my virginity to... man when I think about the opportunities I passed up :jointsmile:

I'd also like to add though.. that I have pretty much taken a break from trying to get girls.

Some advice? Honestly, from what I've seen girls are attracted to fucking badasses, so go kick someones ass and then take his girlfriend.

Christ I am not a fucking monkey. I'm not going to try to defeat the alpha male just to get a submissive female who's into "badasses". That is definitely not on my list of options here. I was raised to be a peace-loving hippie, and that's the way I'm gonna stay. Besides, I've never been in a real fight before, so I'd just get my ass kicked if I tried. Violence is not the solution. I'm looking for love, not hate.

[slipknotpsycho]

Christ I am not a fucking monkey. I'm not going to try to defeat the alpha male just to get a submissive female who's into "badasses". That is definitely not on my list of options here. I was raised to be a peace-loving hippie, and that's the way I'm gonna stay. Besides, I've never been in a real fight before, so I'd just get my ass kicked if I tried. Violence is not the solution. I'm looking for love, not hate.

sorry to say, but he's right... sure women always talk about wanting that nice guy, that's so diffrent from every other 'one'.... but at the end of the night, they almost all end up the same place (atleast those women who have a man) which is a guy, not too much diffrent from 'every other guy' not telling you to go out and beat some guys ass and grab his woman and kiss her before she can speak or anything like that... maybe just stop being so timid? you know, too much of anything, is bad, including niceness....

[Not Enough Herb]

wow man i know exatcly how u feel

sometimes you just wanna give up. but if you do that, your a pussy, and know one wants to be with a pussy

bro, as long as u keep ur head up and ur confidence high, ull find the right girl.

pointless sex is fun, but id rather have sex with somone who loves me like i would love them.

keep tokin man, ull find your girl sooner or later, plus your only 21, you got an assload of time ahead of you.

good luck

[ericwt]

So have you tried dating web sites? Hell at this point it couldn't hurt. Never tried them myself. But I always hear about people meeting on the Internet.

Feel your pain. But relationships are too much bullshit for me.

[Great Spirit]

I didn't loose mine until a few days before my 20th birthday and it was a one time deal. I regret it though. I've only had 2 partners in my lifetime and they were only one time things.

In my opinion...sex is overrated because we see it all in the media as the thing that we must do. I see differently. I have never dated myself and I am pushing 24. lol. But I look at how much commotion and bullshit happens from relationships. I've seen MANY people hurt and devastated over relationships. Everybody is different, but its something that I choose not to deal with. And I consider random sex with people to be immoral.

Honestly....weed, music, reading and meditation/communion with God give me the best peace. Not women.

Loving unconditionally implies no attachments whatsoever. It is a lot harder to love without conditions then to love with conditions/attachments.

[ericwt]

I didn't loose mine until a few days before my 20th birthday and it was a one time deal. I regret it though. I've only had 2 partners in my lifetime and they were only one time things.

In my opinion...sex is overrated because we see it all in the media as the thing that we must do. I see differently. I have never dated myself and I am pushing 24. lol. But I look at how much commotion and bullshit happens from relationships. I've seen MANY people hurt and devastated over relationships. Everybody is different, but its something that I choose not to deal with. And I consider random sex with people to be immoral.

Honestly....weed, music, reading and meditation/communion with God give me the best peace. Not women.

Loving unconditionally implies no attachments whatsoever. It is a lot harder to love without conditions then to love with conditions/attachments.

I think he is totally correct.

[dutch.lover]

I am going to elaborate on Birdgirls point of putting yourself in the path of intelligent women.

I think it would be worth it to try and get out more and socialize, doing something that interests you. Interested in or want to try pottery? Join a pottery club- guarenteed there will be women there, and since the people you would meet there have an interest in common with you, it should be that much easier to break the ice. Love reading? Join a bookclub. Love photography? Take a few photography classes. Get my drift? Do something you enjoy, and you will meet women who enjoy the same thing as you. I think that would give you a really good chance of meeting someone. Also, if you sign up for something with multiple sessions, you can slowly get to know a woman, or women, so that might be a little less stressful than walking up to a stranger in a bar and asking her out.

PS: I know that you're feeling really shitty about still being a virgin, but I have a few friends who are 20 and have still never been laid either. You aren't abnormal for not having sex yet. All those guys who nail girls just to nail them- they will probably end up quite skilled in bed, but terrible at relationships. You shouldn't look up to them at all, if you ever find yourself comparing yourself to them- just stop. Women aren't impressed by guys that are players, and knowing that you haven't slept with anyone may actually endear you to the next worthy girl you meet even more.