Sorry about the news, Lil Josh. What MastaC, our resident intellectual and king of sensitivity, was telling you about it not being a life till the third trimester is not true. It's a life from the moment it's conceived. Whether or not it's a viable life capable of living outside the womb is another matter entirely. That generally happens sometime after 25 weeks of gestation (a full-term pregnancy is 40 weeks).

Definitely talk to your girlfriend. Sure, you two made that baby together, but she's the one who has to carry it in her body and bear the greatest part of the burden of raising it through infancy. I hope you'll both give very serious consideration to adoption. There are so many couples who'd love to adopt a baby, and if you two decide to pursue that route, you'll be doing a very courageous, generous thing.

You two are still kids yourselves. Even under the best of circumstances when you're married, educated, and have well-paying jobs, child-rearing is a huge responsibility. It turns your life upside down, even when you're ready for it and plan the pregnancy. That's why I hope you'll consider giving that baby to a couple who desires that responsibility. Because it's a huge one. And it goes on for more than 20 years if you do right by the child.

Get to the doctor so she can get evaluated and begin disucssing her options. If adoption is a good option for you, in England, just like in America, there are private solicitors (attorneys) who handle adoptions, and that's a way you can make sure her medical expenses are covered, or she can go to an adoption facility for unwed mothers to wait out her pregnancy. Please at least give serious consideration to this option.