Sorry for your loss.

I hate funerals, and the religions make MONEY off of them, not to mention the funeral parlors that they're in cahoots with. They "get' people at the most vulnerable times - and take advantage.

People that have been extremely hurt by religion have a different perspective. Those that have been lucky enough not to have been will just have to understand that it's very difficult.

The way that your aunts and uncles related to your grandfather while he was alive is more important than going to a funeral If they were good to him then, going to the ceremony isn't important. If they were not, then going to the funeral means nothing.

The image of Catholicism (and other religions) that some people have is not the reality of what many of us have experienced. It can destroy people, and their relationshsips with their families.