Death - People's Opinion on the Ceremony

[spliffstar22]

I can remember losing my grandfather like a couple of years ago, but we couldn't afford to go to England for his funeral........I've lost 5 close friends, 4 to gunshots, and 1 to a car crash.........But i think that's BS how your Grampas 2 sons won't go, it's not about religion, it's to pay your respect.........

spliffstar22 Reviewed by spliffstar22 on 12-28-2006. Death - People's Opinion on the Ceremony My grandfather passed away this morning. He's been sick for a long time and he's been in and out of the hospital for the past several months so the news wasn't a shock. He's finally free from pain. I was supposed to move into the new house today but I have to wait until tomorrow, which isn't really a problem. My grandfather had 8 children (ages 29 - 55 years old) with a woman he was married to for over 55 years. My grandparents raised their children catholic and we all went to church on Rating: 5

[Skink]

Cherry I am so sorry... My condolences to you and your family...

sorry but there is no excuse for not attending,,,suck it up and just make an apperance,,,I hate funerals but,,,that is what I do,,,suck it up and go...

wars are faught over religion,,,I wish I new why,,,if I did I would save the world...

RIP

I am sad for you having to go through this at a time there should be joy... Death is natural so don't let it upset you to much...

[micko]

In my house, there are several small dogs. They love to eat those dog treats that look like bacon. But really, the reason that the dog treats are made by manufacturers to look like bacon is to impress me, the owner. The dogs would eat them even if they looked gray and lumpy.

A long time ago, I used to help my cousin mow a Catholic cemetery in Northeast PA. It was old, and the church itself is from 1820. Anyhow, during my work it was common to see little groups of two or three people coming to visit graves. It really meant a lot to those people to have those graves, and to be able to visit and show respect for the people they had loved in life.

My parents raised me as a Catholic, but I developed doubts, and haven't attended regular mass in years. When someone dies, though, it isn't my place to say anything about the ceremony, because it holds a meaning to the people involved. Just like the bacon shape of the dog treat and just like the visits to the old cemetery hold a meaning.

I hope your uncles get over themselves, at least for a while, to show respect for your granddad and for the other people who value the Christian ceremony.

[Skink]

In my house, there are several small dogs. They love to eat those dog treats that look like bacon. But really, the reason that the dog treats are made by manufacturers to look like bacon is to impress me, the owner. The dogs would eat them even if they looked gray and lumpy.

A long time ago, I used to help my cousin mow a Catholic cemetery in Northeast PA. It was old, and the church itself is from 1820. Anyhow, during my work it was common to see little groups of two or three people coming to visit graves. It really meant a lot to those people to have those graves, and to be able to visit and show respect for the people they had loved in life.

My parents raised me as a Catholic, but I developed doubts, and haven't attended regular mass in years. When someone dies, though, it isn't my place to say anything about the ceremony, because it holds a meaning to the people involved. Just like the bacon shape of the dog treat and just like the visits to the old cemetery hold a meaning.

I hope your uncles get over themselves, at least for a while, to show respect for your granddad and for the other people who value the Christian ceremony.

I am trying a relate this to bacon strips,,,LOLz... Nonetheless a good post... its not there place to reject the type of ceremony,,,and it reeks of just not wanting to attend...

[JR77]

.......But i think that's BS how your Grampas 2 sons won't go, it's not about religion, it's to pay your respect.........[/QUOTE]


Yes I totally agree - your love for the person who died should outweigh anything else.

[Dr. Dro]

People suck.

[RichieRich]

My best thoughts and wishes go out to you Cherry.

[MastaChronic]

death is death, theres no real need for ceremony. the whole reason they bury dead bodies 6 feet deep is for a few good reasons
1. to prevent the spread of disease linked with decomposing bodies
2. wolves/coyotes/other animal wont dig them up and spread around disease
it used to be about that, now its about the hyper reality concept of "ceremony" although it accomplishes the same thing.
i think its funny how people can get pissed at something that doesnt truly exist.

[wholapola]

If it was my father I'd go. Regardless

[ericwt]

Sorry for your loss. As for the two of their sons do not want to attend their father's funeral. It sounds to me like this is a lame excuse.

There is something else going on that you do not know about. Who knows what it is.

This is more of a statement against your grandma than it is about the grandpa.

We all know funerals are for the living.

I suspect you should reach out to the two sons anyway. They are having to deal with the loss of their father.

Best wishes