when is it time to kick them to the curb?

[slipknotpsycho]

ok, i need everyone's input on this... cuz i'm not really sure what to do, honestly.

ok i have a friend, and i've done alot for him, and he's done alot for me. when he didn't have a place to stay, i've let him live with me, when he didn't have food i've provided for him, when he didn't have cigs. i'd provide for him there as well... in return, i smoke cheap ass cigs, i can basicly go in his pack and take his cigs whenever i want, me or my wife can use his car pretty much whenever we want, he's probably spent well over 500$ on weed for me over the last year... it's been a give and take relationship.... but it was still always social.

now here's the dilema.... a while back, i started playing ps2 games online, so of course, so did he... i'm the only person he knows with internet hook up, period. so this is the only house he can play wtih all his little clan buddies and what not... well now it's starting to get down right irritating, i mean he will literally, if we let him, stay here 24/7, playing them for days in a row... and i mean this quite literally with no sleep. when you try to talk to him when he's playing (which if he's over here, is non-stop) you basicly get ignored, you have to shout his name 3-4x before you'll even get his attention, then you're LUCKY if you even get your question/comment out before he turns his attention back to the game. and usually, he'll get irritation in his voice if you keep 'bugging' him.... basicly, i dont' feel i have a friend anymore, i feel i have a pest.... he doesn't really talk to me anymore, doesn't have anything to do with me, it's just the ps2, and his online friends.... and it's everyday pretty much...

so when is it time to say i've had enough, and kick him to the curb for good? he's probably done more for me, then i have for him, money wise... so i really don't know what to do, i feel guilty, anytime i think about saying "look dude, you're not my friend anymore, you don't even want to have anything to do with me, all you want to do is come here, and use my internet to play with your REAL friends, you know those clan idiots you'll atleast give the time of day to" ..... so what would you do?

slipknotpsycho Reviewed by slipknotpsycho on 12-24-2006. when is it time to kick them to the curb? ok, i need everyone's input on this... cuz i'm not really sure what to do, honestly. ok i have a friend, and i've done alot for him, and he's done alot for me. when he didn't have a place to stay, i've let him live with me, when he didn't have food i've provided for him, when he didn't have cigs. i'd provide for him there as well... in return, i smoke cheap ass cigs, i can basicly go in his pack and take his cigs whenever i want, me or my wife can use his car pretty much whenever we want, Rating: 5

[lardman]

Hey man,

If i was in your situation, and he is a cool friend like you say he is, I think you should tell him that you think hes just coming there to play games all the time and you want to hang out with him and shit too, not just have him come over only to play games.

:thumbsup:

[MastaChronic]

dude, the guy is a video game addict, it happens. i used to be one.
you need to sit down with him and have a serious talk about the way he's been treating you before you kick him to the curb because, chances are, he doesnt realize it completely.

[lardman]

dude, the guy is a video game addict, it happens. i used to be one.
you need to sit down with him and have a serious talk about the way he's been treating you before you kick him to the curb because, chances are, he doesnt realize it completely.

Exactly.

Do you want him like gone and not coming to your house anymore, or just not playing ps2 all the time?

[slipknotpsycho]

well, see that's the thing, i know even if i talk to him, it won't change anything... i mean i can't say for 100% sure, because there's never anything you can say in this life for sure, but there are things you just KNOW, and this is one of those things.... as of right now, he's basicly my only friend, which is probably why i've put up with it for this long.... i don't want to be utterly alone, but i also don't want to feel like i'm being used, that's why i came here, to see how everyone else felt on the subject....

[MastaChronic]

talk with him anyway, tell him you feel like your being used.
im not sure if this will help, but use nothing but "I" statements, dont include the word "you", thats a blaming word.
my therapist taught me this, its good for getting your feelings out w/o starting a fight

[graph]

well, see that's the thing, i know even if i talk to him, it won't change anything... i mean i can't say for 100% sure, because there's never anything you can say in this life for sure, but there are things you just KNOW, and this is one of those things.... as of right now, he's basicly my only friend, which is probably why i've put up with it for this long.... i don't want to be utterly alone, but i also don't want to feel like i'm being used, that's why i came here, to see how everyone else felt on the subject....

You'll never know for sure if you don't talk to him. You might as well try, it couldn't hurt, right?

[partyguy420]

sounds like a bit of meth mixed in with that video game addiction...

[MastaChronic]

sounds like a bit of meth mixed in with that video game addiction...

possibly, but i used to stay up for days playing video games and i didnt do meth, i was just so focused i didnt think about sleep.
that and energy drinks help, i can move my thumbs faster with a couple monsters in me

[death racer]

i suggest you talk to him i have a friend that whenever i and other friends go to his house all he does is play video games and doesnt let us play, im always like what the hell you called us over, i suggest you try and talk to him about it or make new friends wich is easy all you have to do is talk to new ppl on the street or at work, or wherever it is you usually hang out.