This is partially how I know you're dealing with psychological and intellectual issues, GS. For one thing, if you don't realize that emotional attachements are the essence of relationships (our ability to make those attachments begins with the attachments we form with our parents as infants), then you've got things badly turned around in your mind. This is no surprise to me, but you prove this fact in statements like you made above. Do some reading about attachment theory so you can inform yourself.

You also seem to have missed the boat on the subject of conditional and unconditional love. I noticed this on Oneironaut's thread, too, where you mentioned unconditional love. Little tip here: Romantic love is conditional. Always has been. Always will be. And it should be that way. Unconditional love is something that sounds terribly good when people say it. And, under ideal circumstances, it’s the sort of love that parents give to their children or which, for people of faith, a higher spiritual power bestows. But between young adults in a romantic relationship, reciprocal love is very much conditional upon fidelity, trust, honesty, affection. Many things. Don’t fool yourself into thinkng otherwise. If people didn’t have self-respect, those conditions wouldn’t matter.