Your Existing Situation
Physical illness, over-tension, or emotional distress have taken a severe toll. His self-esteem has been reduced and now needs peaceful conditions and considerate treatment to permit recovery.
i'd say that's about right...

Your Stress Sources
Delights in the tasteful, the gracious, and the sensitive, but maintains his attitude of critical appraisal and refuses to be swept off his feet unless genuineness and integrity can be absolutely vouched for. Therefore keeps a strict and watchful control on his emotional relationships as he must know exactly where he stands. Demands complete sincerity as a protection against his own tendency to be too trusting.
couldnt' be anymore right, matter of fact (and she may not even know unless she reads this part) me and my wife had a fight about this very thing...

Your Restrained Characteristics
Willing to participate and to allow himself to become involved, but tries to fend off conflict and disturbance in order to reduce tension.
Believes that he is not receiving his share--that he is neither properly understood or adequately appreciated. Feels that he is being compelled to conform, and close relationships leave him without any sense of emotional involvement.
me and my wife just had a fight about this last night, even tho she may not have even know this is what it was about...

Your Desired Objective
Seeks success, stimulation, and a life full of experience. Wants to develop freely and to shake off the shackles of self-doubt, to win, and to live intensely. Likes contacts with others and is enthusiastic by nature. Receptive to anything new, modern, or intriguing; has many interests and wants to expand his fields of activity. Optimistic about the future.
with the exception of "optimistic about the future, true.

Your Actual Problem
Wants to act freely and uninhibitedly, but is restrained by his need to have things on a rational, consistent, and clearly-defined basis.
not really sure on the last bit of mumbo-jumbo, but wanting to act freely, more true than any statement before, matter of fact, i'll do almost anything someone else says i can't just to prove they can't stop me...