First off...congratulations! Second...my husband and I sound a lot like you guys, but we already have a child. She is 9 and I have the view that marijuana is natural and when she is old enough to understand, I will explain the legal issues, the medical issues, and why she should always wait because it could stunt growth, etc. (the same speech for alcohol and cigs). I would much rather my child come home and tell me she is smoking weed than tell me she likes to drink!

I do want to say that smoking and playing with her is much better. I find myself wanting to read more books with her, or play house etc because I am "on her level" somewhat more. But let me tell you, if you are high, and your child falls or hurts themselves in any way....buzz is gone! Immediately you jump into parent mode. It is not like alcohol, where you cannot control yourself. Just think about driving...when intoxicated it is very very dangerous, but when high (from weed) you are extremely cautious. Parenting is kinda like that. Also, we do not smoke around her...or leave anything to find. To us, it's like sex...we don't want her to find us doing the deed. I don't leave sexual toys lying around for her to find, just like I don't leave papers, pipes etc. lying around.

Now as far as growing....we also only grow for ourselves. We feel we would risk getting caught more by buying it from dealers. Granted if we are caught growing, the penalties are much worse that buying, the chance of getting caught is less (unless you tell people, sell etc.)

I hope this long rant has helped. Just remember, when it comes to your children, use your own judgement. If you don't think you should, then don't.