It's an interesting question. I think you should consider moving somewhere where the laws are less draconian. MA is one of the harshest. Look at VT if you want to stay in NE; the laws are still there but in general the state is more progressive and they seem to care more about using their small number of officers to address violent crime. Well, and write speeding tickets to skiers who are never going to be able to get time off work to drive all the way up from Jersey to fight them, lol!
The problem with growing with kids is the trust/honesty/secrecy thing. You can be open with them, but you know how kids are, trying to be all 'cool' in school... it's only a matter of time before the cool mom comes up. Again, better to grow within the law so they're like, yeah, so what? It's legal.
Anyhoo.... just my 2 cents.
Liberiamom, I still think we should chill sometime!