Darlin', you gotta move to California! The laws around here are halfway sane! I'm in rural northern Cali and it is a good place to raise kids! My county is starting a FREE after-school day care for up to 8th grade in ALL of the schools (2 to 6 pm)! A well lit skateboard park was just put in about a half mile from the school. Crime is low, rent is reasonable (for California, anyway) and there are few sirens in the night. I do hear the occational gun shot- usually the cattle rancher down the road after a coyote'! And sunrise over the snow covered mountain can't be touched!-- The move would solve your problem! As a legal medical user, you would have nothing to hide from the children. And I'd love to have you as a neighbor!

I didn't grow when my kids were little, but I did smoke in front of them. My husband also smokes tobacco. We didn't treat it as anything mysterious or forbidden. We did explain that smoking was a grown-up thing and when they were 18, if they wanted to they could. I was lucky with the kids I got, both were smart enough to understand explainations. They knew that their lungs had to be all grown up or the smoke would really hurt their lungs. They knew that there were family things that we didn't talk about outside the family or close friends. Like we didn't discuss how one of my sons would..... (well, we just won't discuss it- too embarassing, now that he's grown! lol) or that Mom and Dad smoke cigarettes (husband rolled his own, so no big difference there) or that Grandma sometimes drank too much and got really silly. It was just family stuff. The whole thing was low key. The furtiveness, and the dishonesty of hiding medical use seems somehow absurd to me when there are 11 states where you could be at least semi-legal. - Granny