Girl help

[greendove]

If talking online is a usual and comfortable mode of communication for you two, then it's as good as anywhere. Otherwise, online relationships wouldn't exist. Just break the topic in slowly so you don't startle her with it. I mean, she asked if you wanted to go out, and you said, "no". *chuckles* Bite the bullet, and ignore those tummy butterflies.

[420purpHAZE420]

yea, but i dont think she was asking me out...it may have been more like wow i never wouldve thought...and how do u guys think i should get into it online...it would b awesome if u all think its ok bc then we can preplan it 2gether

[Jack the Tripper]

Purplehaze, don't do it online.

Here is my recommendation:

Buy/download the original broadway cast recording of HAIR.
Next time you see your girl, invite her over to get high and listen to music.
Get nicely stoned with her, and try to be clear with your body language that you'd like to be close to her (if you're not already close to her.)
Get comfortable, light a joint, and listen to HAIR.
Just let whatever happens, happen.

If this doesn't get you somewhere, I'll give you another idea

[Euphoric]

HEY JUST CAUSE SHE SAYS NO ONCE DOESNT MEAN SHELL KEEP SAYING IT..BE PERSISTANT HAHAH I ASKED MY GF LIKW 20 TIMES BEFORE SHE SAID YES

[greendove]

HEY JUST CAUSE SHE SAYS NO ONCE DOESNT MEAN SHELL KEEP SAYING IT..BE PERSISTANT HAHAH I ASKED MY GF LIKW 20 TIMES BEFORE SHE SAID YES

I turned my husband down for MONTHS... over and over and over again... before he finally broke down my resistance. Couldn't help but then marry the guy. Persistance can get a man far when it comes to winning a woman's heart. Just make sure you don't get any restraining orders in the process.

[420purpHAZE420]

so u guys think that was just a nice way of saying no?

[Pumpkinpie]

Get it over with dude. If she says yes, great! If she says no, tell her that this doesn't change anything you had with her before that. Easy-Peasy-Lemon-Squeezy!

I loled

@topic starter

I can see your point, I mean if she said no she might feel awkward around you later on... and then, well you're fucked.

Don't know what to tell you except go eat a box of cheeze its and be happy! (Except if you're fat eat a crisp apple)

[mackSwell]

Ok, Kiddo... First of all, don't forget to breathe. *chuckle*

Now, it is nigh-impossible to figure out whether or not she'd be interested in being more than friends with you based on her actions and these dance-around-the-topic conversations you two are having. I suspect after that online conversation that she might be interested, otherwise when you semi-joked about the 2 of you going on a date, she would have just blown it off or changed the subject immediately. The fact that she asked could be a good sign.

So here's my advice: Instead of asking her straight out if she's interested (straight-forward is often a good thing, but it has it's place!), just say something like:

"Why do you think you and I have always been just friends?"

This way you are asking the question, but without revealing that you wish it were more. If she doesn't feel the same way, she'll be able to gracefully answer without putting something weird out there in the way of the good friendship you have now.

A) She might say something like, "We just don't think of eachother that way." or "We wouldn't want to mess up our friendship." This is her way of telling you she's not interested in more. Go to D.

B) On the other hand, she might say, "You never asked!" or "I never thought you would want to." If so, this is your opening. Continue in the hypothetical, and say something like, "If I had asked, would you have said 'Yes'?

If she says she would, then it is time to make your move!
If she says No, you have your answer - Go to D.
If she says "I don't know," skip to C.


C) She might just say, "I don't know." Then you can ask her if she's ever thought about it.

If she asks, "Have you?" go ahead and admit it! But be casual and light about it: "Of course. We get along so well, and you know you're beautiful - I'm a guy! Of course I have thought about it."
If she says she's never really thought about it, back it up - She probably doesn't want things to change. Go to D.

D) Be prepared with something upbeat to change the subject so it doesn't get too heavy, like, "Holy shit, did you watch South Park last night?"

You can do this! You'll find out what you want to know without fucking up the friendship.

Good luck!

[mackSwell]

Thank you, Freez. *grin*

Does anyone remember those Choose Your Own Adventure books?

[dutch.lover]

haha that was good advice! and yes, i remember those books fondly.