Quote Originally Posted by Polymirize
chosen of course.

I'm not entirely sure I understand your terms, but if I do: By inborn you mean our biological drive for sex. Sure that exists, and it factors heavily into our evolutionary history. But in modern society people have sex for pleasure rather than reproduction, and in fact often block the ability to reproduce through contraception.

Similarly, the orgasm is not the goal of sexual activity either. Sex can be an amazing bonding experience between two people that doesn't involve a "race to the finish". Sex can last beyond 30 mins... definately.

I'd say the risk of STD's and pregnancy is more a reflection of the people you're choosing to spend time with, rather than the activity itself.
I completly agree!!
And I think your middle paragraph pretty much sums up the piont of sex and intimacy.