i have a question about " RESPECT "

[Breukelen advocaat]

I think its hard to really respect someone/ some thing if I fear it. Respect is better when you earn it with good deeds than with intimidation and fear

"Good deeds", lol!

I don't give a damn if a person that has bad intentions "respects" me, or not - they have to be made aware that it's not going to be pleasant for them if they try anything. You don't give violent criminals flowers - unless there's a bomb inside the package.

[stinkyattic]

if you respect i would assume that wiping out a ant colony
would be the same as exterminating a wolf pack

I agree that respect of life really does include that of beings we perceive as less than ourselves.

You can respect certain TRAITS of a person who you otherwise see as 'below' you....

Think of Napoleon.

In his day, he was feared as a conqueror.

He was respected as a brilliant strategist.

But centuries later we are left with an image of him as a megalomanaical little man with some serious 'issues', who, were he alive today and living in my town anyway, would probably have the urge to drive a red Ferrari with a vanity plate and wear a bunch of thick gold chains and as like as not hang out at strip bars, lol.

[JunkYard]

Respect through fear is a type of coersion. You don't honor out of true respect this way, but out of fear. True respect comes from appreciation for the respected, imo.

:smokin:

[LIP]

I respect you friendowl, but i do not fear you.

I wish we could smoke up some time man.

[stinkyattic]

"
You don't give violent criminals flowers - unless there's a bomb inside the package.

Well then you yourself would become the violent one.
Remind me not to accept any boquets from you!

[friendowl]

its impossible to respect someone you percieve as lower or weaker than yourself

that was a good line right there

so whats the difference then between appreciation and respect

[JunkYard]

its impossible to respect someone you percieve as lower or weaker than yourself

that was a good line right there

so whats the difference then between appreciation and respect

I don't respect those who push fear, I respect those who are worthy of my respect. Those who push fear make me want to beat them with it, and challenge them. If they win, it's still not respect, but coerced submission. There is no respect in fear...None!

My son respects me, but he does not fear me. He knows I would never harm him, but he also knows I would die, and kill for him. Which would you rather be honored for...Fear, or meager appreciation for who you are nd what you stand for?

[surreys princess]

good one....you cant respect something you fear, in my opinion...and to me, appreciation is about admiration where respect is something you more would look up to....dont know if that makes sense, but it does to me..as usual, i know what i mean...lol

princess

[friendowl]

but you are looking at fear in a physical sense
like junkyard sya his son dont fear him [physically]
but what about the fear that comes with ,like what
if tyour son is afraid to disappoint you or upset you
that is still a form of fear

if i were to let people walk all over me and treat me bad
im sure they would do just that. no matter how nice i am
i would get taken advantage of right away. [appreciation]

if i show that some kind of consequence will result in some
kind of negative emotion than it keeps others from crossing that line [respect]

im so stoned today
damn this is some philosphical weed

[JunkYard]

You gotta stand up for yourself no doubt, but that isn't what gains true respect, imo. That only lets others know that you'll fuck them up if they cross you, or take advantage of you. Some people don't respect anything, some people respect violent people, others respect different things. It all comes down to what characteristics the indivual values in others.

Fear has no real respect, imo, but I do Love that philisophical weed, lol!

:stoned:

btw, my son need not fear disappointing me...he's my son and I Love him the way he is.