a wise man at my job told me this

what works is not changing a person, or hoping a person can change their ways, but you accepting their flaws

its not a matter of you having to quit, but for her to learn to live with it if she truly wants to get involved

if you really peak her interests, she'll like you regardless of what you do, if she's dead set on you not smoking, then don't smoke around her or call her when your high

comprimise, don't change

and if she can't deal with it, her loss, there are other fish in the sea