i personally think it is a chemical issue within the brain for some. i have a cuz who is gay & he has 3 brothers that r str8 but he showed signs well before puberty that he was light in the loofers. btw, he is the coolest of them all & i dont hold it against him. matter of fact a cpl yrs ago he told me he had a secret & that it was he was gay. i told him i had one also, i'm a taurus!needless to say i'm his fav cuz. i think alot of flamers are attention whores tho & i'm not too happy with man hating bulldykes. r