For those in relationships, how do you balance holiday's.

[JaggedEdge]

Anyone else here living with their boyfriend or girlfriend? If so, do your parents forget that your partner has family too. My girlfriend and I both talked to our parents today to see what was going on for thanksgiving and both asked if we would both be going. I told my mom it depends on what her family is doing. She said her mom asked the same thing, and they both sounded a little confused as to why we wouldn't both be there. Do they forget she has parents?

Anyway, I'm wondering how others handle it. Do you each go your seperate way's and meet back up at night, or do you spend a few hours at both dinners? We are just going our seperate way's on this one. Niether of us feel like dealing with the stress of being one place and trying to get to the next an hour 15 mins away. It works out better that way. This way we both get to spend times with our families without feeling rushed. I hate holiday's.

JaggedEdge Reviewed by JaggedEdge on 11-22-2006. For those in relationships, how do you balance holiday's. Anyone else here living with their boyfriend or girlfriend? If so, do your parents forget that your partner has family too. My girlfriend and I both talked to our parents today to see what was going on for thanksgiving and both asked if we would both be going. I told my mom it depends on what her family is doing. She said her mom asked the same thing, and they both sounded a little confused as to why we wouldn't both be there. Do they forget she has parents? Anyway, I'm wondering how others Rating: 5

[Cheery Cherry]

If that works for both of you, that's how it should be. If I got along with my boyfriend's family, I would spend time at both places.

[slipknotpsycho]

lol my wife's family (well any of it that would even consider her coming, or making a dinner as far as i know) don't live around here, and my family, well pretty much all of it anyways, doesn't give a flying 2 shits about me, much less who i married... my mom usually tries to get me to go to her house for holidays, but if i can i won't, all that ever happens is she gets drunk (usually with other friends) and causes a bunch of uneeded bullshit, starting screaming matches with anyone who will even think twice about going back at her with it.. it's just all around a miserable fucking time and she tries to guilt trip me into coming, buti have no guilt because she's done this to her self..

[Gone]

My girl and I will go to her families dinner one year, then for that occasion the next year we go to mine. That way we don't have to worry about travelling and rushing and all that.

[TallulahGreen]

Anyone else here living with their boyfriend or girlfriend? If so, do your parents forget that your partner has family too. My girlfriend and I both talked to our parents today to see what was going on for thanksgiving and both asked if we would both be going. I told my mom it depends on what her family is doing. She said her mom asked the same thing, and they both sounded a little confused as to why we wouldn't both be there. Do they forget she has parents?

Anyway, I'm wondering how others handle it. Do you each go your seperate way's and meet back up at night, or do you spend a few hours at both dinners? We are just going our seperate way's on this one. Niether of us feel like dealing with the stress of being one place and trying to get to the next an hour 15 mins away. It works out better that way. This way we both get to spend times with our families without feeling rushed. I hate holiday's.

My boyfriend and I do not have enough money to celebrate the holidays. So we just aren't going to..which is okay because neither of our families are super uptight about holidays.
It is kind of lame though because I would love to invite his family over for thanksgiving but his family is all SOBER now because of past substance problems..and my family is full of alcoholics.

So pretty much we will never have a Holiday together.
Oh well though, I still love them all!

[slipknotpsycho]

My boyfriend and I do not have enough money to celebrate the holidays. So we just aren't going to..which is okay because neither of our families are super uptight about holidays.
It is kind of lame though because I would love to invite his family over for thanksgiving but his family is all SOBER now because of past substance problems..and my family is full of alcoholics.

So pretty much we will never have a Holiday together.
Oh well though, I still love them all!

lmao, that could be one hell of a holiday party if both yal's families showed up... i'd pay to watch it

[JaggedEdge]

My boyfriend and I do not have enough money to celebrate the holidays. So we just aren't going to..which is okay because neither of our families are super uptight about holidays.
It is kind of lame though because I would love to invite his family over for thanksgiving but his family is all SOBER now because of past substance problems..and my family is full of alcoholics.

So pretty much we will never have a Holiday together.
Oh well though, I still love them all!

We don't have enough money either, but my family would flip if I didn't appear on Thanksgiving. Your situation sounds a lot like mine, one side loves to drink, the other is the uptight christian type.

[TallulahGreen]

Yeah, well considering my family live exactly a block down the street from the boyfriend...getting together for Thanksgiving is no problem. I am looking forward to bong rips and stuffing!!!

[Mr. Grimm]

For me it works out pretty well balancing out cause I always alternate every year being that my girlfriend is Native american and her family doesnt celebrate Thanksgiving for obvious reasons. So one year I spend with my family and the other I spend it with hers and they all get together on the reservation and have this big party and have the best bud to smoke which I couldnt do with my family lol.:rasta:

[birdgirl73]

We used to have a lot more time balancing both families at holidays when our son was young and everyone was eager to clock holiday time with "the baby." He's my parents' only grandchild and my in-laws' only grandson. It felt challenging to be pulled in both directions. My in-laws live in Houston, and my family is right up here nearby in the Dallas area like we are. We used to switch years for Christmas celebrations--one year in Dallas, then the next in Houston, and Thanksgiving was spent with whoever we weren't going to be spending Christmas with. Fortunately, these days my in-laws can drive or fly up here anytime they want, and now our son can do the same and go see them when he wants. Still, we see more of my family simply because they're closer. These days at Christmastime, we generally combine both sets of parents. The Houston clan comes up here and stays for a bit and we add them to the family gatherings involving my family. It works out fine. They all get along well.