I think you should gamble...send him the pic. She might get fired...yes she might. More likely though you will get busted for sending pornagraphic material throught the mail (federal charges). In some states that could become a sex charge and you would have to register as a sex offender (not all sex offenders rape or sodomize others). Then comes the worst senario...your daughter finds out sometime during her life about it and will know what a full blown jerk her dad is/was.

Your post if full of anger and hositility...try your best to work through your feelings, learn to deal with you have no or little control over what your ex does. It would be wise to also document each occurance that you are denied visitation or other matters involving your child. DO NOT embelish the facts. You may need this for court as evidence. If it seems at the slightest tainted then it as a whole will be dismissed due to credibility.

On a final note, If you do ANYTHING with pictures like that and it gets entered into a court document..YOU ARE SCREWED...few Judges will give you a fair shake from then on. So either burn it, look at it and pull your pud, or give it to her to show her friends. Could be free advertising.