it's so distressing sometimes....to know the one you love is going thru so much emotional pain...and there's nothing you can do to make it better. i'm too mom-ish i guess...i just wish i could hold him and make his pain disappear. just to look in his eyes, that're normally so sparkly and happy, and see more pain than you could imagine...it makes my heart break. he helped me thru my dads death...and then months later his bro was taken from us...i felt helpless watching him struggle to cope...