Quote Originally Posted by Stemis516
see, thats the thing...i desire her, more than ever b4 all this happend

but i mean were both young and this was our first REAL relationship

i can honestly say i would marry her, not now obviously but i can see it happening...i dont think you HAVE to date around awhile in order to find the one to marry, but i think it is smart and helps so i knew this day would come eventually, we both did, just not soooo soon

basically thats the thing, i was doing all the little things, iwas putting alot of energy all of the time...i have my issues but that didnt stop me from giving my all...she was more inconsistent however but it was still great...but i never got tired, so i dunno what gave u that vibe....i fell more in love with her everyday

im definitly gonna find more about myself with this opportunity...i prob wont be hooking up for a few weeks months or something hopefully, but im also not gonna feel sorry for myself

my opinion is that long term, cutting off from each other initially is best...any1 else agree????

sure, talkign to her know andthen would make it easier, but to me its just delaying the inevitable and while it may be easier intially it only leads to more pain down the road...once again, any1 agree???

and is it a good idea to meet up 2 weeks from now?? i dunno, because either it will make it worse for me/us or it might be a chance to straigthen things out..i dont wanna like hoop up randomly and have it be meaningless, im the type of guy who has sex so it means something, i dont wait till marriage but i most likely wont have a 1 night stand and i dont think i could emotionally handle it with her....ideally i just wanna continue to be best friends once we both get past the pain and if we do decide to get back together, a ring will shortly be on her finger, but if we dont i wanna be friends...is this reasonable/possible???

if i had my way id keep this thing going, but ive been at the point now where her happiness means more than anything and i trust her that she knows what shes doing...basically it sucks, i just wish id know what will happen or at least how long will it take for me to feel normal again and complete...im afraid of the uncertainty.....but ya, im working my ass off not to be worthless and just mope around all day because that only makes it worse..the hardest is trying to fall asleep cause i think sooo much...nothing a bowl and a valium cant cure, but still....i wake up because i dream of her...just sitting and being with her i dream of that and i wake up

ahhhh
That's deep man. Just take it easy, have some space away from each other to cool down a bit. When I said you were "tired" it doesn't mean you are sick of her and that it wasn't worth it! It simply means you invested a lot emotionally and even you need a break from keeping it all together.

I wouldn't put a time limit on when to see her again. You have to be ready and so does she. You can be friends with your ex if you want to be, no notions are going to stop you.

As for wanting to marry her, finish school first. Marriage is much more than love can carry. Don't even think about it in such a situation! Remember, she's still in her first year of college, new life & experience. You have to live life before you tie down. Anything earlier is a mistake.