Of course you identity is overbearing. If you spend to much time worrying about it then you won't get anything done. The best solstice I can give is that everything was put into motion for some purpose. If it were'nt we wouldn't exist. this is another difficult idea to describe and a lot of people will try to counter with "Well how do you know the whole thing didnt happen by chance?" The very fact that everything happened means that there is an inherent purpose.
Remember, "you've already made the choice, it's up to you now to understand why you made it."