My own son would rather live on welfare than live with me...

[CityBoyGoneCountry]

I was in such a good mood all weekend, too. But this has been the monday from hell for me.

I just got a notice in the mail that my son's mother is adding him to her welfare case, and I have to pay the state for it. In other words, I'm paying for her welfare check every month.

Fuck, I have a good job. I have land in the country. Come live with me, boy.

But he doesn't want to.

CityBoyGoneCountry Reviewed by CityBoyGoneCountry on 11-07-2006. My own son would rather live on welfare than live with me... I was in such a good mood all weekend, too. But this has been the monday from hell for me. I just got a notice in the mail that my son's mother is adding him to her welfare case, and I have to pay the state for it. In other words, I'm paying for her welfare check every month. Fuck, I have a good job. I have land in the country. Come live with me, boy. But he doesn't want to. :( Rating: 5

[TallulahGreen]

Man that sucks! I would totally come live in the country..
...just not with my dad haha.
My dad lives in the country, I fucking hope I get his house someday.

Anyway you probably have a much better relationship with your son than I do my dad.
Really, that is too bad. I'm sorry.

[TokinAsianGuy]

i'm sorry things turned out this way.

i dont' think i could say anything to make you feel better. in fact i'm probably making things worse right now aren't i?

i haven't seen my father for 11 years. not by choice of course. but for what it's worth, i think your son is bloody lucky to have a father who actually wants to see him.

[Buddahbear]

Hmm that's a rough deal! However I can understand that it's hard for a boy to uproot himself from his home and friends. Keep the offer open! Maybe it will take time for him to want to do it.

[CityBoyGoneCountry]

I'm the most laid back, easy going dad on the planet. I let me son get away with so much shit that I shouldn't let him get away with. Sure, I'll yell at him if he gets in trouble at school or something, but I've never hit him, or even spanked him. I let him stay up late, I let him watch R-rated movies, I let him do all the cool shit my parents wouldn't let me do at that age.

But he has chosen to grow up in the ghetto, where the only thing he will learn is how to fuck up his life. I just hope he's enough like me to change his priorities someday.

[Phire210]

how old is he? you seem like a great guy from the posts of yours i've read. Hell if you were my dad I'd jump at the chance to live with you in the country, for reasons other than the fact that you're a member at cannabis.com. There's really nothing we can say to make it better man, but hopefully he'll come to his senses one day soon, move in with you and start living the dream.

[CityBoyGoneCountry]

how old is he?

13

There's really nothing we can say to make it better man,

No, there's not. But it helps me a little bit to vent. I could go vent to the pig, but as someone pointed out in another thread, she doesn't even have regard for her own feces.

[Da Boy Genious]

What city are you from mang?

[CityBoyGoneCountry]

What city are you from mang?

Pick one.

Spent most of my life in the Bay Area. I lived in San Lorenzo, San Leandro, Oakland, Hayward, Union City, Fremont, Castro Valley. Most recently Modesto. My son is in LaGrange, wherever the fuck that is. I've never been there. But he's with his mother, and his mother is all ghetto.

[moorephened]

Listen, I don’t know if I’m the best person to offer parental advice but I do remember being a teenager. Those are some really messed up years when your relationship with your parents changes and your not always sure about the best way to handle it.

I think most boys go through a period where their relationship with their dad get’s a little testy. My dad and I used to fight every night, and one time when I was 16 I spent a week living on the streets rather than come home.

But here’s the thing: We got through that, and I love my father more than life itself now.

My advice would be to stay as involved as possible in your son’s life, be the best father you can be even in tough circumstances.

This too shall pass…