Family Matters - kid finds stash

[wicked_retard]

First of all, I'm not the dad from the "fridge in the garage" thread.

Ok, so, as my name implies, I am not the sharpest knife in the drawer. I smoke once or twice a week, I used to enjoy it more, but also weed helps me with a chronic pain condition. I kept my stash in my home office, in a not so hidden place and my kid obviously found it. It's been made lighter by several grams. He's 15. I found a missing bud in his room, in a not so hidden place. (Insert the "Apple does't fall far from the tree" saying).

He doesn't know I know yet, and I am bent up about this. My wife doesn't know I have it which complicates the matter, and although I would prefer he doesn't smoke it, I really don't mind him smoking. I was that age when I started. I just don't like the stealing, lying, and he has denied smoking at all, but he's come home obviously blazed.

Help me with a 15 year old's perspective. How would you handle this if it were your kid? I need to be a grown-up but at the same time, realistic. I think I've been a decent parent, but now ...

I need to approach him about this. I want to be taken seriously. 15 is young, and I believe it should be limited, but I have lost all credibility. sigh.

What do you think?

wicked_retard Reviewed by wicked_retard on 10-30-2006. Family Matters - kid finds stash First of all, I'm not the dad from the "fridge in the garage" thread. Ok, so, as my name implies, I am not the sharpest knife in the drawer. I smoke once or twice a week, I used to enjoy it more, but also weed helps me with a chronic pain condition. I kept my stash in my home office, in a not so hidden place and my kid obviously found it. It's been made lighter by several grams. He's 15. I found a missing bud in his room, in a not so hidden place. (Insert the "Apple does't fall far from the Rating: 5

[ToDrunkToFish]

Well back in the day when I first started smokin I would never tell my dad because id thought he'd beat my ass.

I guess if my dad told me then he was cool about it back in the day I wouldnt of minded or talked about it more. I dunno if you remember when you started but didnt you really not want your parents to know at all?

Even still I hate bringin up the weed subject with my dad even though he knows I do it. Its just a thing I guess.

And tell him straight up you know. How you found that bud and your bad was pinched. He'll only dig himself deeper. Tell him youll keep it between you two and your wife doesnt needa know. Which works in your favor as well.

[Nochowderforyou]

I can't really help you much as I don't have any kids.

Maybe just let him know hey, I'm not stupid, I was 15 once, I know what you're up to. Hide your stash in a locked drawer to keep it safe.

When my dad caught me smoking reefer he said, "I can't give you shit for something I used to do. I don't mind if you smoke pot, but if I ever catch you smoking crack, I'm going to kick your ass"

I don't know, it might help. Sorry I can't help you out further. Good luck! :thumbsup:

[slipknotpsycho]

me and my bros would always lie to my dad about smoking, until he came and blazed up with us once, i guess it showed us that he wasn't really just trying to get us to incriminate ourselves he just really wanted to know the truth... i would reccomend that, but that also sends off the wrong message... sometimes atleast... so i don't know what to tell you... i know if you're to get him to admit to it, he's got to feel comfterable talking about it, and that he won't just be setting himself up for trouble...

hard situation really....

as far as limitations go, i think it's fair enough to say you'll let him get away with it as long as he keeps good grades in school, doesn't do it before school or something (although we both know that its' probably going to happen one way or another) just make sure he knows an education is way more important than sparking up and kicking back... sparking up should be reserved for after you've busted your ass and deserve to get to kick back :thumbsup:

[wayoftheleaf]

Dude my dad doesn't care if i smoke. and my mom just doesn't want me to buy it. So she gives me free weed. I always try to give her money for it but she wont let me. she gives me about 5 grams of some high quality mids a week. Offer to sell it to him for cheaper than hed get on the street so he wont risk getting busted. smoke it with him once a week/month. Try to be as cool about it as you can. But while doing this also try and enforce how it is a natural herb and he shouldn't even experiment with man made shit.

[MacWQ33]

Make sure he knows this.......

sparking up should be reserved for after you've busted your ass and deserve to get to kick back

And make sure he knows this too.....
"I can't give you shit for something I used to do. I don't mind if you smoke pot, but if I ever catch you smoking crack, I'm going to kick your ass"

[wicked_retard]

Starting to feel better. I really appreciate the answers. A lot of good stuff. He'll be coming home from school soon. Planning on doing it right away.

[zigger]

Dont threaten him.
Im 17 my dad doesnt know because i know he didnt.
Tell him not to get caught because its illegal.
And hook him up with a connection to get bud, it would be a good way to relate, instead of him risking to find a dealer.
Tell him that he needs his own money if he wants to buy and your not gonna support it because you need the money for your own bud.

[Inferius]

Make sure to scare him a little too.
Remind him of the seriousness of the law,
that he should never smoke where it's unsafe and never be caught with it,
and one very important thing that most parents seem to miss:
Just because you both smoke cannabis, does not mean other drugs are ok as well.
You NEED to explain to him that cannabis is relatively safe, but about 95 percent of all other drugs are unsafe, or very very very unsafe.
Tell him not to be afraid to talk to you about anything.
I was 15 once too, blah blah blah, please don't lie or steal, be direct and honest and respectful and I will be as well, and maybe when you get older, we can do this together sometime.
Hope it goes well.
Try not to be too intimidating.

[PaRaNoIa]

First of all, I'm not the dad from the "fridge in the garage" thread.

Ok, so, as my name implies, I am not the sharpest knife in the drawer. I smoke once or twice a week, I used to enjoy it more, but also weed helps me with a chronic pain condition. I kept my stash in my home office, in a not so hidden place and my kid obviously found it. It's been made lighter by several grams. He's 15. I found a missing bud in his room, in a not so hidden place. (Insert the "Apple does't fall far from the tree" saying).

He doesn't know I know yet, and I am bent up about this. My wife doesn't know I have it which complicates the matter, and although I would prefer he doesn't smoke it, I really don't mind him smoking. I was that age when I started. I just don't like the stealing, lying, and he has denied smoking at all, but he's come home obviously blazed.

Help me with a 15 year old's perspective. How would you handle this if it were your kid? I need to be a grown-up but at the same time, realistic. I think I've been a decent parent, but now ...

I need to approach him about this. I want to be taken seriously. 15 is young, and I believe it should be limited, but I have lost all credibility. sigh.

What do you think?

Dude... If my kid smoked, I would be pissed.. I'm only 18, and I don't have a kid, but still..


I would tell him to think twice, but the kid would probably NOT think twice...




My mom busted me, and asked me nicely if I would stop, I said no.

My mom got angry, and TOLD me to stop, I said no.

My mom tried to bribe me with a car, I said no.



There is relatively NOTHING that'll make me stop..





You could try to postpone it for a year or two, by saying you'll teach him to grow when he's 16 or 17 .. Maybe even as late as 18.. But he'll probably just smoke anyway..

There is really nothing you can do.. Grounding him will only make him say "I HATE YOU" lol, and cutting his allowence might make him steal or worse, get a job.. lol


Anywhoo.. I'm out of options..