I've had many 'ideal' significant others..it's bizarre, my need changes as I get older. When I was younger, I desperately needed a father like figure, to keep me in control, take care of me, ect. Then I needed to take care of someone, so I found him and he was a total druggie/lush and at the time it was great. Now I've got this inbetween guy where we're 'friends with benefits' even though he's really my ideal guy (strong, funny, cute, sensitive, great smile, drinks a bit, pops pills like me, used to smoke, charming and can make me melt with only a few words), minus the fact he's getting locked up soon.