Mentally Disabled Neighbor need advice

[partyguy420]

thats sort of sad that you guys would rather help out his dog then him... all i hear is ill ship a case of food for the dog, if you had the monney, what i would do, is call up the power comapny, and use your infromation to turn on the power, and same with water...and possibly phone.... but it seams as tho you dont have the monney, and how old is he, and do you know how he became mentaly disabled?

[birdgirl73]

Dro Princess, sorry I'm just now chiming in on this. I've had this thread in my mind to reply to since it first appeared. Just as an FYI, when people are in circumstances like your sister's neighbor, you can call your county's Adult Protective Services unit. Your police or fire departments can nearly always provide you with the number, and you can generally also find it in country phone listings because APS, like Child Protective Services, is administered through counties. (That may not be its exact name in your part of the country but it'll be something similar.) Anyway, APS offices have social workers and people who can make a visit and evaluate situations like this. If need be, they can even go to court if the person's a danger to himself or his home environment has become that way. Often case investigations play out just this way--the people in question don't want help but others can clearly see there are problems. Anyway, just for future reference, APS is an adult safety/welfare office that helps make sure particularly vulnerable adults are OK like the elderly, the disabled, etc. Your county MH/MR office is a good place to call, too, if the person is disabled. When I used to work as a paramedic, we ran into situations that needed referrals to these agencies all the time. Cops see them all the time, too. They definitely break your heart. I admire your concern and caring for this poor soul.

[tootsie roll]

thats sort of sad that you guys would rather help out his dog then him... all i hear is ill ship a case of food for the dog, if you had the monney, what i would do, is call up the power comapny, and use your infromation to turn on the power, and same with water...and possibly phone.... but it seams as tho you dont have the monney, and how old is he, and do you know how he became mentaly disabled?

The fact is this. I can't save the guy but I can help the dog.

There are city agencies that handle this kind of thing but they help the human not the animals. This way, both can be helped.

Services will turn back on his electric and water and he'll have a phone where he can call for help if needed. He'll get medical and food credits.
First, he needs to agree to be helped which so far, he hasn't. He doesn't want handouts etc..

I can only do what I can. At least I try. Ya know?

[tootsie roll]

Dro Princess, sorry I'm just now chiming in on this. I've had this thread in my mind to reply to since it first appeared. Just as an FYI, when people are in circumstances like your sister's neighbor, you can call your county's Adult Protective Services unit. Your police or fire departments can nearly always provide you with the number, and you can generally also find it in country phone listings because APS, like Child Protective Services, is administered through counties. (That may not be its exact name in your part of the country but it'll be something similar.) Anyway, APS offices have social workers and people who can make a visit and evaluate situations like this. If need be, they can even go to court if the person's a danger to himself or his home environment has become that way. Often case investigations play out just this way--the people in question don't want help but others can clearly see there are problems. Anyway, just for future reference, APS is an adult safety/welfare office that helps make sure particularly vulnerable adults are OK like the elderly, the disabled, etc. Your county MH/MR office is a good place to call, too, if the person is disabled. When I used to work as a paramedic, we ran into situations that needed referrals to these agencies all the time. Cops see them all the time, too. They definitely break your heart. I admire your concern and caring for this poor soul.

Hey ms. mod , I was looking for you yesterday. I was wondering how your sister is feeling. She's been on my Prayer list and I think of her. I hope she's still interested in that soup or I'll have to come up with something else.
(((hugs)))

[wonderbear]

What a great country we live in, where you can have electricity and water turned off because you don't have much money! God bless America!

uhh, you expect it given to you by the gov?

[the joint meister]

i feel bad just reading this and knowing that theres things likes this that go on everyday and theres nothing i can do about it.

peace

[birdgirl73]

Hey ms. mod , I was looking for you yesterday. I was wondering how your sister is feeling. She's been on my Prayer list and I think of her. I hope she's still interested in that soup or I'll have to come up with something else.
(((hugs)))

Hey, girl! I haven't gotten a chance to catch up with you. Thank you so much for including my sister on your prayer list. That touches my heart to know that. Thanks for your congrats on the mod gig on the other thread, too. I know it seems like too much for me to take on, what with school and home such priorities, but I think when this situation at home resolves itself as we know it will, it's going to be a good distraction for me in the long run even if the timing of everything combined is potentially stressful right now.

I dropped you a reply in one of our other threads (I can't remember which) that I'd made the soup on Sunday. It turned out great. Was a huge hit with everyone here. My parents are here, too, now, and my aunt and younger sister have been in and out a lot more, so we're feeding a crowd. We spooned a little broth into Bess' mouth and she seemed to like it, but she's not really eating/swallowing any more in just the last day and a half. I wish I'd made the soup a week earlier when she still was. Today she's been nearly totally comatose, and the hospice team says that'll just continue to deepen till she eases through the transition. We're turning her and keeping her comfortable, keeping her airway clear. I sing to her and talk to her and stroke her skin and hope she's aware of that, but it certainly doesn't appear that she is. Anyway, the death vigil has begun, and it's heartbreaking, of course, but I'm glad she's no longer aware of any pain or suffering.

Thank you, as you always are, for being so caring and concerned. Much love to you, Tootsie.

[slipknotpsycho]

i don't know if it's been said, but just call and tell them the situation, dont' give them any info, ask them what can be done, and what they would do if they were to have the right info... i mean that's no way to live, if he needs help to be taken care of that's all there is to it... i've known situations where people have care takers given to them by state where someone comes out to help them do everything all day... or depending on the money he has maybe you could help him find a nanny to take care of him...

[The Figment]

Dro Princess, sorry I'm just now chiming in on this. I've had this thread in my mind to reply to since it first appeared. Just as an FYI, when people are in circumstances like your sister's neighbor, you can call your county's Adult Protective Services unit. Your police or fire departments can nearly always provide you with the number, and you can generally also find it in country phone listings because APS, like Child Protective Services, is administered through counties. (That may not be its exact name in your part of the country but it'll be something similar.) Anyway, APS offices have social workers and people who can make a visit and evaluate situations like this. If need be, they can even go to court if the person's a danger to himself or his home environment has become that way. Often case investigations play out just this way--the people in question don't want help but others can clearly see there are problems. Anyway, just for future reference, APS is an adult safety/welfare office that helps make sure particularly vulnerable adults are OK like the elderly, the disabled, etc. Your county MH/MR office is a good place to call, too, if the person is disabled. When I used to work as a paramedic, we ran into situations that needed referrals to these agencies all the time. Cops see them all the time, too. They definitely break your heart. I admire your concern and caring for this poor soul.

Some Very Wise Advice...I have famaily members with mental illness and some times this is the best one can do for folk in this situation.