i don't know if it's been said, but just call and tell them the situation, dont' give them any info, ask them what can be done, and what they would do if they were to have the right info... i mean that's no way to live, if he needs help to be taken care of that's all there is to it... i've known situations where people have care takers given to them by state where someone comes out to help them do everything all day... or depending on the money he has maybe you could help him find a nanny to take care of him...