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    dilemma

    i have a deep love question for my fellow stoners.
    my best friend just revealed to me she's gay, and to top it off, she likes my sister (who just came out a few months ago), she has already told my sister her feelings for her. it's probably the most extreme thing that could've happened to me. this is really really hard for me b/c they are the two closest people to me & it's really weird thinking about them together or them flirting and stuff. it's made me so anxious and stressed out.
    but ok, this is where it gets really hard for me, i am bisexual (they both know this) and I am kind of in love with my best friend. so it breaks my heart thinking about her and my sister having a relationship. i love them both and i support whatever their choices are, but i need to know if i should tell my best friend how i feel about her, cuz i dont konw if i could deal it otherwise. it rips me apart inside (and i admit makes me hellllaaaa jealous) that she wants to be w/ my sister, but me and my sister both think it's because my sister is so open about her sexuality, plus my best friend is almost 22 and my sister is 17. So should i tell her my feelings about her? If i thought for a second it would ruin or hurt our relationship i wouldn't tell her b/c i value her friendship too much. But i don't know what the hell to do.
    maphiagrrl Reviewed by maphiagrrl on . dilemma :confused: i have a deep love question for my fellow stoners. my best friend just revealed to me she's gay, and to top it off, she likes my sister (who just came out a few months ago), she has already told my sister her feelings for her. it's probably the most extreme thing that could've happened to me. this is really really hard for me b/c they are the two closest people to me & it's really weird thinking about them together or them flirting and stuff. it's made me so anxious and stressed Rating: 5

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    #2
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    dilemma

    If you are going to be jealous about her being with your sister than I think you need to talk to your friend about your feelings. Maybe it will work out maybe it won't. But if you hold your tounge and you do really like this girl than it will most likely interfere with your friendship anyway.

    Good luck.
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    dilemma

    I think you should talk with your sister, not your best friend, right away. You didn't say anything about her having feelings for your best friend, so maybe if you tell her how you feel about your best friend she will easily step aside or whatever. I also want to point out that the 17-22 age gap is pretty big for that age- unless your sister is very mature for her age, I would go with your prediction that your bf likes your sister for the sole reason of her being open with her sexuality. She could also like your sister just because she feels like she gets support or reassurance for her recent 'coming out'. If your talk with your sister goes smoothly, I would wait a little while to talk to your best friend about your feelings because if she does truly like your sister, it could take her a little while to get over her. Once that happens- you can move in!
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    dilemma

    thanks for the advice ....& my sister definitely likes her, but not in a real way, just in a slutty way....
    they both want to know what i think of the situation and it's so hard to talk about w/o revealing that i'm in love w/ my best friend...
    my sister has even said to me "what if we just hooked up?"
    which i would hate b/c its not even real
    i dont know if I want to tell my sister first tho, but maybe i should just to get her advice and make my feelings clear

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    #5
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    dilemma

    I hate to say it... *strain* *fights inner demons*

    *gasp* ....This could become one hell of a threesome.

    >>>>>>>>>>>>>And back to sincerity. (but seriously, consider the threesome)
    You have three extreme loyalties here. To your sister, to your best friend, and to your self. This is a very complicated matter of hearts.
    However, a couple things come to mind. You said your friend "liked" your sister, that you are "in love" with your friend, and your sister is only sexually attracted to your friend. "likes" can be swayed, but "love" runs too deep to simply shrug off. If you truly love her, letting her date your sister will most likely severely fuck up your relationships with both of them.

    >>>>>>>It sounds like your sister isn't the problem. The problem is you and your friend. If the relationship didn't work out, would you still manage to be friends? Maybe you could ask a hypothetical question to her.
    >>>>>>>>>>Has your friend shown any deep interest in you? Have you ever gotten "close"?

    >>>>>>If I were you, I'd cut away all the bs. I'd get your sister and your friend in the same room together, (get some weed too), and tell them flat out, your feelings about the situation. Theres no other way around it. You can't expect them to have the same degree of honesty, but if you go out on the limb for two people who care about you and who you care about, they'll most likely open up as well.
    >>>>>Afterwards, whatever scenario becomes a reality, you can always smoke a few bowls together and ponder the lives you'll live together, no matter who's shagging who.
    >>-Inferius

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    #6
    Senior Member

    dilemma

    this would make a great movie!!:thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup:

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    #7
    Member

    dilemma

    thanks for the great feedback & while i'm not even gonna consider the threesome (i'm from florida, not kentucky)....i will consider your advice...you're pretty right on about the feelings, but i am unsure about being in love with her (but maybe i'm really not)....i have just had too strong of a reaction to the possibility of my friend being w/ another girl & since it's my sister I wanna go into a deep depression & never come back. it's really a huge blow on me, whhhyy my sister? whys it gotta be my sister? s
    so thats why i wanna tell my best friend my feelings, & either she does feel the same, or she could grow to? my bf is really really good at hiding her emotions (she has been w/ lots of guys & is currently ending a 2 year relationship w/ her boyfirend) but just sittin back and watchin her and my sister have a fling would give me terrible anxiety or something, b/c i want it to be me more than anything.
    i dunno, i never really been in love and this shit is just so f'in complicated; and yes i know this would make a crazy movie, i'm a writer so maybe one day i'll write a book about it.

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    #8
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    dilemma

    also i think we would still be friends afterward, just b/c i would make sure to tell her that first and foremost she is my best friend, this is something i wrote to maybe read to her (i'm better at writing than w/ words, reefer's got my tongue). there is a few references in here u probably won't get, but she said to me that my sister "would hold her hand anywhere", (it's part of the reason she likes her as i said her, cuz my sis doesn't care), but i want her to understand i dont care either cuz i love her

    "Let me start out by telling you first & foremost you're my best friend & i would never want to do anything to change that. your frienship is too valuable to me. but this is wearing so heavy on my heart & it's the reason i've been so upset about yr feelings for my sister. it's too goddamn hard to think about you two together, i really did make myself sick, especially becuase i'm the one that loves you. I would hold yr hand anywhere. i didnt always feel this way but in a way i have always loved you.
    i kno you would probably never want to be w/ me but i couldnt live with it anymore. it just fucking sucks paying for that fucked up shit that happened to me 6 years ago, because it will affect all the relationships i ever have.
    i dont want things to have to be awkward or for you to feel self-conscious or whatever whenever we're together b/c i dont think it should. i want to be your friend no matter what."

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    #9
    Senior Member

    dilemma

    rock. paper. scissors.

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    #10
    Senior Member

    dilemma

    Quote Originally Posted by justinsane
    rock. paper. scissors.
    ^ IM sorry i understand this is a really serious issue but thats hilarious.
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