xonce the no one replied to your last post i will...

the make floweres take a bit to throw ther pollen, you will def know its a male befor it does, it will have a couple or balls inits little branch befor it pollenates

the brown hairs could be fromm over nuting , heat, yo ur fingures touching them ect, judging by your plants age its probly once of the three. your plants are by no means readty to harvest