for me, it depends on the girl. if she's pretty, and im high, and were alone in a somewhat intimate setting with no real distractions, im in heaven. ive been fucked up enough to feel like the j was a part of me, though oddly never in a purely sexual way. it works the same for hookah style bongs, too. in any case, the best is when were both snuggly high and hold the j (or roach by then) up to each others lips. weed is romantic shit.