Good luck, I never was noted for being "correct" talking to women either. IMO, just be yourself, and people will either be there or they won't.

Just keep the smoking and your opinions to yourself. The less she sees it or hears about it the less you will. It was the only way I was able to get some peace. Of course, then I dumped her and now have a very successful lady who also smokes!

If she is willing to read anything introduce her to the websites listed below to see if it will change her mind.

www.jackherer.com
http://www.sierratimes.com/03/11/07/article_kubby.htm
www.artistictreasure.com