younger brother won't talk to me

[allsmiles]

Hey guys, I'm hoping someone will have some insight for me.

About a year ago my mom found some weed in my brother's room - he was 15 at the time. she freaked out and called me. I came over and we sort of had a family meeting with my brother, my parents and me. I am 13 years older than my brother and we used to be super close. Ever since he has been very angry with all us of us and won't talk to me anymore. I know he feels betrayed by me but I felt if I got everything out in the open, we would be able to deal with the situation better. I smoke occasionally myself and I am not aposed to my brother doing so. - some back ground info. My brother pretty much does what he wants- he comes and goes as he pleases, my parents never know when he'll be staying out for the night or with whom he'll be hanging out with- he doesn't do his school work - that's what his teachers say and has disrupted classes. My brother is a good kid and has a lot of potential. I need some help in getting through to him- he is now a senior in high school and may not be graduating with his class. what do I do ? help.

allsmiles Reviewed by allsmiles on 09-13-2006. younger brother won't talk to me Hey guys, I'm hoping someone will have some insight for me. About a year ago my mom found some weed in my brother's room - he was 15 at the time. she freaked out and called me. I came over and we sort of had a family meeting with my brother, my parents and me. I am 13 years older than my brother and we used to be super close. Ever since he has been very angry with all us of us and won't talk to me anymore. I know he feels betrayed by me but I felt if I got everything out in the open, we Rating: 5

[sweetnhighz]

take him downtown and let him meet some bums and tell him if he dont get his shyt straight he will be one of them or the fukers that go to jail, ya gotta scare him straight to doing good in school, but man.....i hate it when WEED fuks up relationships, ITS JUST A FUKN HERB PEOPLE!!!! they prolly wouldnt care if he smoked just ciggies eH? and thats worse than pot will ever be same with alcohol, argh! cant ya tell my mood is being pissd off?

[make it legal]

take him downtown and let him meet some bums and tell him if he dont get his shyt straight he will be one of them or the fukers that go to jail, ya gotta scare him straight to doing good in school, but man.....i hate it when WEED fuks up relationships, ITS JUST A FUKN HERB PEOPLE!!!! they prolly wouldnt care if he smoked just ciggies eH? and thats worse than pot will ever be same with alcohol, argh! cant ya tell my mood is being pissd off?

It's true. My Dad is always pissed at me for smoking but probably wouldnt give a shit if i was drinking...I can never understand that...

[Professor Dan K.]

people who get pissed at smoking but not drinking are mostly upset because its the illegal factor. Alcohol will be legal when your 21 so if you do it a little bit before then, ohh well hes just being a teen right? but weed on the other hand peopleg et pissed about.... i digress

Man, i have friends who are in the same situation as your brother, if he was my brother, id be cool with him smoking but i would tell him that he should at least do his schoolwork, it only helps in the future. Just do your school work and get good/decent grades then people wont really care "as much" if and when you get caught.... unless your parents are nazis, then i good luck.

[DylanN89]

Wow... after reading that it made me think of myself...im 17 and as ur brother is a Senior in highschool. I think that it sounds as if i just read a post about my life... I make good grades almost straight As at the moment but, have very bad relationship with my parents over cannabis, which quite actually is soo damn ridicolous.... My dad rather me smoke pot than ciggerattes hes straight up told me that but the fact its illegal makes it no better i guess. sometimes its really hard to get threw to people... Maybe even just letting him fuck up well really give him a reality check. Fortunally ive never fucked up but came awfully damn close about 2 days ago. Police been watching me saying that im dealing drugs and waht not but thats soo not fucking true. And im "marked" now i dont understand it.. All i do is smoke occasionlly with friends..... Anyway i know exactly waht ur talking about tell him that ur not upset with him u just want him to keep FOCUSED on the right things in life... like COLLEGE. :thumbsup:

[dryst]

blaze a bowl with him

[Big Haze]

Hey guys, I'm hoping someone will have some insight for me.

About a year ago my mom found some weed in my brother's room - he was 15 at the time. she freaked out and called me. I came over and we sort of had a family meeting with my brother, my parents and me. I am 13 years older than my brother and we used to be super close. Ever since he has been very angry with all us of us and won't talk to me anymore. I know he feels betrayed by me but I felt if I got everything out in the open, we would be able to deal with the situation better. I smoke occasionally myself and I am not aposed to my brother doing so. - some back ground info. My brother pretty much does what he wants- he comes and goes as he pleases, my parents never know when he'll be staying out for the night or with whom he'll be hanging out with- he doesn't do his school work - that's what his teachers say and has disrupted classes. My brother is a good kid and has a lot of potential. I need some help in getting through to him- he is now a senior in high school and may not be graduating with his class. what do I do ? help.

i was just like your bro a couple of years ago. i went to school, but never stayed long enough to do anything. but then after stayin at this hotel party for a good 3 days, doing nothin but getting high 24/7. i checked the messages on my phone, all from my parents. they had actually reported me missin lol. when i got home they gave me hell for about a week and i realized they actually do care. i guess my point is, he jus needs to realize that you and your parents did what you all thought was best...wether or not he's realized that idk. maybe you should try talkin with him, and jus say what you feel. honestly, school is the most important thing. it will help him go further in life. but at the same time...it is his life to do what he wants with...although hes young.

[Frivolous248]

Go blaze a bowl with him, then leave him on the street in the middle of no where with no cell phone or nothin', pick him up an hour later and tell him thats what he'll be doin' every day if he can't even get a high school diploma to get a job just to afford a shitty apartment, if hes lucky.

[Cooler Then Jesus]

your brother sounds a lot like me, lol. my brother sounds alot like you! but he is 21, i am 15. if i were you, i would just be real nice to him about it, maybe go pick him up, smoke with him, and explain to him your situation and what your advice is. go in his room, show him the bag, take him for A ride in the car, get blazed, go to arcade, w/e is fun, concert, i dont know. but yeah, show him bro loves him! (but will still kick his ass if hes got it coming =P)

[allsmiles]

Thanks everyone, I will try talking to him again.