"signs"

[GHoSToKeR]

ok, so you know when youre at a club/bar/party or whatever, and you see a guy/girl you like but u dont actually know them, and you can tell that they like you, why is it that alot of the time ppl never actually just say "hey, i like u" lol.. i mean, i was at this club tonight, and i was pretty high, havin a drink with some mates, when i looked to the right of me and there was this blonde girl, wearin a tight blue top and tight jeans.. she looked about 19/20,. and was so fuckin cute too.., and i thought "hoooollllllly shiiiiiiiiiit" coz she was sooooooooo goddam fine, lol, and she kept lookin over at me, and then speakinj to her mate whilst lookin at me, u know, that kinda thing... and i just thought, 'we both obviously like eachother, so whats the problem'.. i mean, after a while i went over and spoke to her anyway and "the rest is history", as they say lol... but ive always wondered, why do guys and girls always play these kinda games.. like, pretendin that they donmt like eachother when they do and that kinda shit.. maybe the ladies of cannabis.com can help me out with this one, coz ive never been able to understand it..

GHoSToKeR Reviewed by GHoSToKeR on 10-24-2004. "signs" ok, so you know when youre at a club/bar/party or whatever, and you see a guy/girl you like but u dont actually know them, and you can tell that they like you, why is it that alot of the time ppl never actually just say "hey, i like u" lol.. i mean, i was at this club tonight, and i was pretty high, havin a drink with some mates, when i looked to the right of me and there was this blonde girl, wearin a tight blue top and tight jeans.. she looked about 19/20,. and was so fuckin cute too.., and i Rating: 5

[never 2 much]

hmm... i dont know, i think maybe b/c girls think that you should make the first move, just kinda depends on the girl i guess, but yea, i know what your talking about..lol

[GotAMinute419]

some people are afraid of rejection but if you see the girl lookin at u n its so damn obvious i dont know why sum1 wouldnt say sumthin

[never 2 much]

i agree gotaminute, i dont know some ppl, are just sooo wierd like that, i mean to sit there and stare at you and talk about OMG how cute you are yet dont have balls big enough to get up and saysomething, introduce yourself, anything. thats crazy lol
but atleast you went and talked to her, god only knows what happened after that..lol..j/k

[RESiNATE]

I think that it is deffo the whole 'rejection thing', that prevents making any moves. I know from experience (but then, I do have a pretty low opinion of myself lol). When I think of all the lost chances and missed opportunities, it makes me think - why didn't I just take a chance?
And it is mainly due to the fact that, as I do have a fairly low opinion of myself, I don't like rejection - it damages the little confidence that I have.

That said, I don't socialise very much - especially these days - as I have little faith in the majority of people. I have grown to be pretty intolerant of peoples' lack of vision and intelligence. I see how they are sucked into the falsities of the social protocol, and allow themselves to be controlled by the machinations of politicians and the media - and quite frankly, I find it tiresome. The last time I socialised (back in July), I was 'forced' to go into town for a 'pub crawl' type event lol. I am very much someone who studies people and listens to their topics of conversation - I am left feeling bewildered at their misplaced sense of importance; the happenings in their favourite soaps are discussed in a manner that borders on the fanatic, or volatile debate about 'who the best footballer is'... It's not so much the topic, as the way that they get so wound up about it - lkeit is a major factor of their lives!

I prefer to stay in and chat on forums like this one, as I find that I can talk to people who have a broader outlook on life and a higher level of intelligence.
And let's remember - intelligence isn't a measure of knowledge, but more a willingness to investigate and learn about that which they are not familiar with - a quality that I find sadly lacking in the general population.

I think I got slightly off-track, didn't I lol
I hate to over generalise, but I guess that I have a different perspective on life (not necessarily the right one lol) that most peple that I come into contact with find hard to understand. It is a vicious circle, I guess - I have no faith that I will meet a girl that turns me on on every level, so will not put myself in a position of rejection - I don't need the trauma lol. I place intelligent conversation on the same level as mutual sexual satisafaction, and would be equally as happy sitting down with a girl, chatting and listening to choooons, as I would making love with her - a bizarre concept!
But then there is the whole relationship issue - I've been burnt before - and whilst I would not try to tarnish eveyone with the same brush, It makes it very difficult for me to trust anyone with my emotions.

Welcome to Hermitsville lmaoo

[RESiNATE]

some people are afraid of rejection but if you see the girl lookin at u n its so damn obvious i dont know why sum1 wouldnt say sumthin

The things is, ~GotAMinute~, those people (like myself) are insecure with themselves, and are probably wondering what they are seeing; ie, 'are they saying wow look at him' or, 'ewww, look at him'?

That's why they don't make a move....

[GotAMinute419]

i know what youre saying but you gotta figure you have 0 chance if you dont say sumthing to them which is almost like rejection, cuz u still dont get the girl, so you might aswell say sumthing cuz it brings up ur chances a helluva lot more, and its better than regreting doing nuthin at all

the problem is that a lot of ppl dont have confidence in themselves all u gotta do is have confidence....or be drunk,it works for me

[RESiNATE]

It's a good point, lol...

A pessimist will never be disappointed lol

[BOgart.bitch]

a lot of the time, the girl does wait for the guy to make the first move. i mean, im way too shy to approach anyone (excluding the times when i have had a few drinks in me) so if i like anyone, they have to make the first move or nothing will come of it. pretty shitty, though.. because nothing ever does come of anything ;p

[roll it up]

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