Thanks GHoST...but I guess that I only have them at the weekend, and it's easier for me to have the time for them.
Even so, the X has none at all, and prefers to shout at the kids, rather than explain things to them.
Like, they will ask to do something that I don't want them to do, but rather than just say "no!", I will take the time to justify my reason for not letting them do those things.
My eldest made me laugh the other day, because I was praising him for doing well at school...lol, he said "Dad, you already said that I was good, why do you keep saying it?", to which I told him, "Look, if you do bad, I will tell you off, but if you do good, I will tell you so...'cos that s the way it is" lol
Bless him lol