hey man i feel for u. i have a mate and his parents split up a long time ago.he finds it hard who to pick to go to there house for christmas and stuff, he always picks his dad cause he cares for him and gets him anything he asks for jammy bugga lol maybe if u tryed this with ur kids like be really nice to them and stuff ah well me talking shite maybe. Personaly i cant wait for christmas going snowboarding and spending it with my gf !!!!