Quote Originally Posted by RESiNATE
Just had a row with the ex-wife over what to do with the children over christmas.
She wants me to go to her house in the morning, so that I can be there when the kids open their presents. She cannot seem to understand why this makes me feel uncomfortable.
Aside from the fact that she has a 'lodger' there, I just don't want to play 'happy families' (a nasty expression ,but one that fits).
She is sooo insensitive - only the other day, she sent me a text wishingme a happy anniversary!
Then, when she came to pick the kids up this weekend, she had said 'lodger' in the car with her.

Now, I don't really care if she wants to shack up with this character, but |I don't appreciate her shoving that kinda thing in my face - something that she is very adept at. And she can't see why I have a problem with it.

Am I being stupid?
Am I making something out of nothing?

I tried to be diplomatic about it, but she pushed the issue, and it turned into a row.
All I wanna do is get on with my pathetic little lonely life, care for my kids as best I can, and be there for them. But she makes an already difficult life, more unbearable.
It's like, take a hint, init!
I feel very uncomfortable around her, because I don't even want to talk to her at all, but I have to becasue of the kids. I also have to keep my sarcastic tongue in check around the kids, because I don't want to make this any more difficult for them. It's bad enough that my eldest (he's 6) keeps asking me why I don'tlive with them anymore. I've tried explaining it to them both (and I would never bad-mouth theur mother in front of them) that it was for the best, but they always ask - evry weekend...

I hate christmas.
Yes I can understand where you're coming from but it's like this;

She's getting on with her life (insensitively? maybe, how long you seperated?)
If this 'lodger' is gonna be in the picture for the foreseeable future, you're gonna have to get used to it sooner or later...
If you can't bear to go there Christmas morning have your own celebration with them St.Stephen's morning/Boxing day ~ tell them Santa left stuff there too. Otherwise just go, grind your teeth to a fine powder in your head and smile, smile, smile Which do you think your kids would most enjoy?

At times life can be a big bowl of shit but Hey wotcha gonna do