How would u feel ?

[Kenn]

sue sue sue sue sue sue sue sue sue

it's the way to a better world.

I understand that you are upset and it would come as a shock to me too (i have a baby daughter) but my friend, accidents happen, especially if children are playing together. Are you sure that your guilt is not making you angrier about this issue than it warrants??

In a litigation culture eveybody loses. Do you think the centre will be safer once they've had to pay the settlement and maybe sack some people??

don't mean to give you a hard time, the real assholes are the parents of the kid that bit your kid.

At first we thought accidents happen but theyre acting like they are trying to cover somthing up ,we have now uncovered afew more stories abt this centre frm other people we have talked to.They were under staffed and negligent toddlers should not be able to go near a baby , it cld av been worse what if the toddler shoved somthing dwn her throat?or even worse?.If my action save this happenin to 1 more baby i think ive done a good thing .

[sombro]

i agree that toddlers should not be allowed to play with babies, if the centre has a bad rep then i also agree that something should be done.
i'm just not sure that legal action will improve the centre for other people's kids.

but you have to do what you feel is right.


good luck

[Cooler Then Jesus]

Man thats cool we were told abt this centre by friends theyre kids go there . And we didnt just dump her so we cld get high . We just live along way frm town and thought it better 4 her than bein dragged all over town .wether i smoke weed isnt the issue here man of course i do after all this is cannabis .com the issue is the lack of care provided.

actually, i think what you did was not a bad idea, you had GOOD intentions. maybe its best to wait till shes a bit older to let her see daddy hitting the ganja, but at her age, its not like shes going to school, or work, or out with freinds, etc. so when are YOU allowed to have alone time with the wife? exaclty, if i where you, find a preschool, or even a good baby sitter while mommy and daddy go visit Aunt Mary Jane..

[benagain]

My wife is a licensed early childhood instruction (day care teacher) so I can tell you how it should have been handled by the center. 1st off, you can't be mad at the center for the bite, it's gonna happen when you have that many kids. You can however be unhappy with the lack of action on the part of the center. Most respectible have either zero tolerance for biting or a one time warning and then dismissal. I would be willing to bet that the person in charge didn't see the bite and doesn't know who did it (if this is a decent place). If that's the case then you should check with other parents, if it happens once it'll prolly happen again if left unchecked. Once the teacher knows the child doing the biting, then an immeadiate meeting should be made with the parents of the biting child explaining the centers policy on biting. Most cases the parents don't know of the biting as the kid prolly don't do it at home. Wanting to bite can be cause by a number of things such as teething to psycologial conditions. If biting continues or happens again after the meeting, the child is then dismissed. It's not fair for the parents, but this will force them to resolve the issue at hand.

Bottom line, you need to sit down with the teacher and if need be, the centers director and discuss your concerns. Most centers are willing to part with one bad kid in order to keep a safe center for other kids. The same though process and policy should also be applied to older kids and hitting or kicking. If you get nothing from the center and you feel it's an usafe place to have children, then contact your local child advocates service. Ususally centers are monitored by a local gov't branch. The child advocates can verify the center is up to standards and if not, have them shut them down immeadiatly.

This of course is generall how things are run over here in the states. The certification and training process varies from state to state, but the basics are the same. You shouldn't feel like leaving your kid at the center is unsafe. That is not what they are there for. Preschool teachers (most) do thier job because they like the kids, not for the money and are generally concerned about the health and wellfare of the kids. If you have a teacher that doesn't, then it's time to move on.


EDIT I see my spelling and grammer sucks ass. Oh well I'm too lazy to edit it all. You get the jist of it.

[BobBong]

Nail them to the wall...

Best of luck..

Bob.

[benagain]

Ohh another thing, here in the states, there are limits to how many kids of a certin age that can be together with one adult. Certifications of the teacher can alter this number a little but there is allways a limit. If the center has too many infants together with toddlers, then they may be in a big infraction of the law and operating license suspended. It's a common practise for directors to over fill classrooms and the gov't can't keep tabs on all of them. If the center is over filled and it's to the point that they can't responsible monitor the kids in the room, then you should do the right thing and get them shut down. This is all of course valid for centers over here in the US. I have no idea how it works on the other side of the pond, but I imagine it'd basically be the same.

[BobBong]

My wife is a licensed early childhood instruction (day care teacher) so I can tell you how it should have been handled by the center. 1st off, you can't be mad at the center for the bite, it's gonna happen when you have that many kids. You can however be unhappy with the lack of action on the part of the center. Most respectible have either zero tolerance for biting or a one time warning and then dismissal. I would be willing to bet that the person in charge didn't see the bite and doesn't know who did it (if this is a decent place). If that's the case then you should check with other parents, if it happens once it'll prolly happen again if left unchecked. Once the teacher knows the child doing the biting, then an immeadiate meeting should be made with the parents of the biting child explaining the centers policy on biting. Most cases the parents don't know of the biting as the kid prolly don't do it at home. Wanting to bite can be cause by a number of things such as teething to psycologial conditions. If biting continues or happens again after the meeting, the child is then dismissed. It's not fair for the parents, but this will force them to resolve the issue at hand.

Bottom line, you need to sit down with the teacher and if need be, the centers director and discuss your concerns. Most centers are willing to part with one bad kid in order to keep a safe center for other kids. The same though process and policy should also be applied to older kids and hitting or kicking. If you get nothing from the center and you feel it's an usafe place to have children, then contact your local child advocates service. Ususally centers are monitored by a local gov't branch. The child advocates can verify the center is up to standards and if not, have them shut them down immeadiatly.

This of course is generall how things are run over here in the states. The certification and training process varies from state to state, but the basics are the same. You shouldn't feel like leaving your kid at the center is unsafe. That is not what they are there for. Preschool teachers (most) do thier job because they like the kids, not for the money and are generally concerned about the health and wellfare of the kids. If you have a teacher that doesn't, then it's time to move on.


EDIT I see my spelling and grammer sucks ass. Oh well I'm too lazy to edit it all. You get the jist of it.

... I agree that taking legal action will not really get to the bottom of this.. like you say. Perhaps the person looking after this BABY.. was not watching them at the time of the biting... but that in itself is concerning. What if this child that bit this BABY....decided to do something else... like .. stab it in the eye with a pencil.... the point is.. it should not have happened. These people were asked and payed to look after their baby for a few hours so that the parents could have some free time together. It is not uncommon.. nor is it wrong to do so. It sure beats using the T.V as a babysitter.. although, at least the teletoon network doesn't break your baby's skin.

The baby should've been monitored better...the fact that it happened is a shame.. the kid that bit the baby obviously has some issues needing to be addressed...but the fact that no answers were given.. and the fact that they were blatantly decide to ignore the matter..is pretty disgusting.

Like i said, nail them to the wall...

[benagain]

... I agree that taking legal action will not really get to the bottom of this.. like you say. Perhaps the person looking after this BABY.. was not watching them at the time of the biting... but that in itself is concerning. What if this child that bit this BABY....decided to do something else... like .. stab it in the eye with a pencil.... the point is.. it should not have happened. These people were asked and payed to look after their baby for a few hours so that the parents could have some free time together. It is not uncommon.. nor is it wrong to do so. It sure beats using the T.V as a babysitter.. although, at least the teletoon network doesn't break your baby's skin.

The baby should've been monitored better...the fact that it happened is a shame.. the kid that bit the baby obviously has some issues needing to be addressed...but the fact that no answers were given.. and the fact that they were blatantly decide to ignore the matter..is pretty disgusting.

Like i said, nail them to the wall...

Agreed. Like I said with over booking, there's only so many kids you can keep track of by yourself. The child limit is allways much much lower with infants because they requite much more attention. Also the time spent together with other kids should allways be limited. Only when the teacher can watch them all together. It doesn't hurt for babies to interact with each other, but keeping them all together all day is not an option. Each child should have it's own crib so that if the teacher has to do anything that takes her attention away (picking up toys or getting a diaper change ready), the children are safely seperated and confined. From what I'm getting, it seems like a center that either isn't responsible or doesn't care. Or both.

[MaryJaneintheCloset]

Thank you FunkyMonkey and BFA for your kind words...

Halo- It's quite alright and more than well deserved for parents to spend some alone time together... you do need a break sometimes, you know. You'll see when you have a kid.

Kenn- what sort of action is Social Services talking about taking?

[Kenn]

Thank you FunkyMonkey and BFA for your kind words...

Halo- It's quite alright and more than well deserved for parents to spend some alone time together... you do need a break sometimes, you know. You'll see when you have a kid.

Kenn- what sort of action is Social Services talking about taking?

social sevices are goin to interview us and the centre on monday. they will determine wether they had enough staff and how toddlers gainen access to the baby room.

Weve disscussed taking legal action and decided against it ,we re not out for money we just want answers and to stop this happening again.