Quote Originally Posted by FunkyMonkey
*takes a big breath*

I used to feel that my friendships we unbalanced. I saw that I provided more for them than they did for me. I have always been a better friend than I had returned to me when needed.
But it was my ego talking and placing expactations on them and desiring control of aspects of a relationship that should not need controling.
As long as there is mutual benefit in a relationship it doesnt matter who does more for the other or who shows more loyalty. I cannot expect them to be more like me can I? No, thats an obsurd thought. But , one that causes rifts and prevents many a person from enjoying what they have in front of them.
A friend is not an extention of ourselves but , go figure, a seperate person.
When expectations are not met it erodes our good feelings towards others and prevents us from sharing openly and drawing on the pool of enrichment offered.
So, now I expect nothing, I demand nothing, and I offer openly. Because if I react with ego, I do not change who they are...I change who I am.
And that, my friends, is not benefitting anyone and the only one hurt is me.
So, to answer your question, I am perfectly happy with my friendships.
I am open to more always and I do not remember "trespasses" and injury because I fel it takes away from me not them.
Even on these boards...I have read and commented on some pretty ignorant things some have said and done but I forget it and move on.
I might have disliked something someone said or did but it does not affect how much I love each and every one of you simply for being you.
I love everyone and dont reserve this for people who are more like me or act like I feel they should act.
Unconditional love friends....thats what its all about.


*gasps for air*
peace.
i found myself going through the same thing

now I realized that it was partially my fault for the demise of some of my friendships

I have a weird group of friends but we are all really close

some I hang with everyday

some I see once in a while

I don't trust too many people, mainly 5 people, including my bf and my ex

i'm content with what I have, they keep me in place of things

we are all very different from each other but we share common ground
Kryzco Reviewed by Kryzco on . Friends? hey everyone, this thread is about your friendships. I want to know if you are pretty happy with them, think they are pretty much dumbasses, or whatever your feelings are about them. I was inspired by a group of friends that were just soooo dumb, saying weed permanently damages your brain and if you smoke 10 times you will have lowered your IQ by 10 points... But anyway, do you wish you had more friends or anything like that? Rating: 5